TIPS ON GROOMING GIRLS/DAUGHTERS PART -1

TIPS ON GROOMING GIRLS/DAUGHTERS

PART-1

Hello Folks!

As you all know and have experienced or are experiencing, raising girls/daughters can be as tactical as raising boys. Let us dive deep into the tips on how to groom girls/daughters.

We all are faced with great challenges along the way, but what matters is the end product.

The number one tip we as parents can follow in grooming our girls/daughters is to talk things out with them. There is always something going on in their little minds. Whatever is there, does come out sooner or later.

As a parent, it is our responsibility to help them ease their thoughts, however, troublesome might it be. This act will give them the surety that as a parent, we are always there for them.

Secondly, to groom girls/daughters, start assigning small tasks to them. Tasks such as cleaning their rooms, picking up their toys, putting away the dinner plates. This will induce a sense of discipline in them.

Thirdly, You can groom your girls /daughters by trying to assess their likes and dislikes. Some girls might like to wash the dishes yet others might like to prepare food in the kitchen with or without your help. Ask them to help you out with food preparations in the kitchen.

This will not only enhance your bond with them but will also lead them towards being more responsible in the later years of life.

Fourthly, encourage their ideas of creativity or ideas related to money-making. Girls, who have parents’ support at their back tend to make a great success in their future lives as compared to those girls who are always discouraged for their ideas.

Fifthly, spent exclusive time with your daughters/girls like watching their favorite TV shows or it can either be a game or sport or even dressing up. Don’t ever think it’s boring.

It is the time we are investing in them that will be rewarded to us in so many ways, we are unaware of.

Sixth, we should teach our girls/daughter to be vocal in what they think is their right. This is the age when you as a parent are fulfilling your responsibility in giving them awareness to express themselves.

This is the freedom of speech that needs to be emphasized and re-emphasized.

Seventh, girls/daughters are very sensitive to the needs of people around them. Still, just as boys have to be taught to respect women of all age brackets; in the same way, girls/daughters have to be told to practice the same when it comes to men.

When we will observe a value system, our self, they automatically will follow it. And if we are not clear our self why do we expect them to be clear. So the lines have to be clearly defined.

Eighth, never insult your daughters/girls in front of anyone especially your maternal and paternal relations not to mention the outside world.

For, in the long run, if they turn out to be the opposite of what they were, they would never be appreciated for what they have become but would always be remembered as they used to be.

Ninth, trust your children in what they tell you. If you trust them today, they will not betray your trust in the future but if it’s vice versa you have deformed them for life.

At the same time, as a parent, you need to have a hawk-eye. After all, you are the parent and know your girls in and out. However, no need to make it obvious to them. Observe and apply accordingly.

And lastly, to make them productive citizens of the community, set a positive example in front of them. As it is said; Do unto others as you want others to do unto you.

I would ask all mothers out there to keep on observing other people’s lives who have raised wonderful girls/daughters. Interview them, talk to them and see what differences have they done and you are missing.

It is always good to learn from other people’s experiences rather than going through the same mistakes.

I would like to add that there is no ready-made recipe for bringing up girls/daughters. We have to experiment with every stage of children’s growing up.

Some things might work well with one child whereas for the others a different set of strategies might be needed.

But what is more efficient is your communication with the child. Only this, will help you in understanding the true nature of your children and act accordingly.

In the end, I would like to express my gratitude to all mothers who despite their professional life, hectic household chores still try their best to balance their lives and in that balance, work hard to raise good children especially girls/daughters.https://www.sabahataamir.com/mental-health-issues-in-teen/

Happy Reading.

THE CATALYST

THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

Happy Reading!

THE PUBLIC

 

THE PUBLIC

Hello Folks!

 

Today, I aim to bring to you, a matter of grave importance to us all. There is a lot of food for thought. So let’s start.

With the ongoing COVID scenario, many of us are living below the poverty line.

Now, it’s not just one class rather it’s the public at large who are facing extreme conditions. The salaried persons are no better than the daily wagers. There was a time when a bare amount could sustain many families and yet could make fortunes out of it.

With the everyday dose of increase in price hikes i.e electricity, gas, net, telephone, and workers salary, etc., Now, the scenario is that a person having a salary ranging 50,000/- PAK Rupees to 200000/-PAK Rupees is facing problems in sustaining necessities.

These are just general expenditures. There are some expenditures beyond these which comprise ethical and empathic expenditures. And if a person fails to fulfill these expenditures, one dies every day.

Parents are the living example in this scenario. A parent takes great pride in providing necessities and all to their children whatever great or low they might have. But the present scenario has made them miserable especially when they look into their empty pockets and are embarrassed to offer what they have left.

However, the children who have seen the good and bad times together are beyond these changes and are still clung to them like honey to bees.

This is the true love of families. Despite the Economic crisis within the families, the bond of family ties has not broken instead it has strengthened.

This, however, makes me think about the present government and its policies. What are they doing in this regard? To me and to every common man, we are observing the scenario of  LOOK BUSY AND DO NOTHING.

If 20 kg of basic staple food (flour) has reached the rate of 1050/- PAK Rupees and Sugar is talking with the sky, where are we to go from here?

Whatever was the scenario in the past with other governments of the time, the public at large did not die like this. if there was a shortage of one thing the public at large was compensated with something else.

Think about it before it is too late. Until next time stay safe and healthy.

Happy Reading!

SMILING FACES/HAPPY CHILDREN

SMILING FACES/HAPPY CHILDREN

 

Hello Folks!

I often feel happy when I see a smiling face/Happy Children. Have you ever wondered the reason behind a smiling face? Today, I aim to discuss the reasons behind a smiling face. So, let’s start.

The first reason behind a smiling face/happy children is a conducive environment. Children are prone to be happier when they have happy parents.

Parents who are cribbing and fighting all the time may not have happy children.

The second reason behind a smiling face/happy children depends on the amount of time you are willing to invest in your children. Growing up children require more of your time and attention.

As parents, if you want to see them smiling and happy, start sowing the seed from this moment. So you can enjoy the fruit in the future.

The third reason behind a smiling face/happy children is the availability of choices in life. The more you as a parent are open to options for your children, the happier are the children.

The results depend on you, my friend.

The fourth reason behind a smiling face / happy children is to listen to your children patiently. They are curious by nature. At times they will pose you questions that will blow your head off.

No need to be mad at them, listen to them with patience and try to answer their questions. It will only strengthen your bond with them. Children need the surety, who to come to when they are in need.

And that’s what you want. Right.

The fifth reason behind smiling faces/happy children is understanding your children. There are all types of children; easy-going, medium, and difficult ones. You need to understand their requirements and act according to their nature.

That my friend is called parenting.

The sixth reason behind smiling faces/ happy children is how you reward them when they make you happy. What matters is your response to their achievement not what you give them.

They are children. They can be happy with just a hug or applause or candy. You do not have to burden yourself financially to show them you are happy with them.

Big rewards, you may want to save for big occasions such as Birthdays or family get together or promotions, or even Christmas.

And Lastly, Value their friends as you value your children. Do keep an open eye on their company, talk about their friends, and do try to establish contact with their parents.

In the end, I would like to say that all children are born with a smiling face. It is we who alone can turn them into monsters. We need to curtail the monsters in our being and let them have a happier childhood and a smiling future.https://www.sabahataamir.com/how-parents-infl…gh-their-actions/

Think about it before it is too late.

Stay safe and healthy until next time.

Happy Reading!

BONDING BETWEEN SIBLINGS

BONDING BETWEEN SIBLINGS

Hello Folks!

We are so struck in our day to day chores that we forget about the little gestures that make life worth living.This keeps on reminding me of Words Worth poem; ” we have no time to stand and stare…”

So here,I am today to talk about the times we spent as siblings.The bonding/relationship between a brother and sister is one of its kind.A beautiful yet sacred relation.Yet it varies; sibling to sibling.

A good bonding/relationship is always based on the people in your surrounding.If one gets positive vibes from the surroundings, the relationships will be of a different kind.

If there are negatives vibes in the surroundings, so would it effect the bonding/relationships.

Let us try to dive deep between the bonding/relationship of a brother and sister.I have often observed that relationship has a lot to do with number placements within a core family.

A boy who is elder than the other siblings will altogether act in a different way.More responsible,independent, caring and organized.This is because of the models he would be having in front of him.

On the other hand, a boy who is second, third or even fourth in placement may act in a more different way as compared to the older siblings. More dependent,loving, caring and protective.

Whatever the number placements, all brothers have their own way of expressing their love and care for their sisters.

Most of the time they are observed being fighting on trivial issues such as why did she take my car? or This is my teddy bear.And the sisters would say that mommy, daddy bought it for all.

This is the time when their arguing skills are developing and it is best not to intervene.Let them come up with a solution.If they need your assistance, they will definitely approach you.

Till then sit back and relax;but do keep your ears open just in case things get out of hand.

Then, i have seen brothers and sisters teasing one another.At times, it is really fun to see where do they get such ideas.We are talking about our future generations.

Here, too if you observe,you will find a lot of insight about their behaviors and how you, as a parent need to tackle them.

Often, siblings are seen spending quality time together by watching their favorite TV shows or You Tube videos or even some movie.And this is how they are bonding good relationships in the years to come.

But, what I, enjoy the most is their looking at past time games as a reminder of the times they used to have.They would indulge in it with the same zest and zeal as they used to when they were children.

Pick up any board game of that time and see the reaction of your children. I am sure you will enjoy watching as much I do.

These are simple pleasures of life and long lasting bonding’s that remain long after we are gone.

Every child and his or her relationship with their sibling is unique.As a parent, we need to foster their bonds in the most productive way without undermining the other.

They may be offended with us at times for not behaving in the way they thought us to.That my friend, is called parenthood.We all trial and experience before we learn the right tactics.

In the end, I would like to say that enjoy these bonding’s while you can.Bring out the best in yourself and others.Praise those around you in a productive way.You never know whose life depends on your single word of praise or motivation.

Until next time, Happy Reading.

 

TIPS ON GROOMING BOYS/SONS PART I

TIPS ON GROOMING BOYS/SONS

 

PART I

Hello Folks!

Parenting, is no easy task.Being a mother of two, I exactly know how hard it can be at times.Don’t be scared,we all have our times.

We all are faced with great challenges along the way; but what matters is the end product.

So here, i am with a few tips on how to groom children especially boys/sons.

The number one tip we as parents can follow in grooming our boys/sons is to talk things out with them.There is always something going on in their little minds.Whatever is there,does come out sooner or later.

As a parent, it is our responsibility to help them ease their thoughts however,troublesome might it be.This act will give them the surety that as a parent ,we are always there for them.

Secondly, to groom boys/sons,start assigning small tasks to them.Tasks such as cleaning their rooms,picking up their toys,putting away the dinner plates.This will induce a sense of discipline in the children.

Thirdly, try to assess their likes and dislikes.Some children might like to wash the dishes yet others might like to prepare food in the kitchen with or without your help.Ask them to help you out with food preparations in the kitchen.

This will not only enhance your bond with them but will also lead them towards being more responsible in the later years of life.

Fourthly,encourage their ideas of creativity or ideas related to money making.Children who have parents support at their back tend to make a great success in their future lives as compared to those children who are always discouraged for their ideas.

Fifthly,spent time with your children like watching their favorite TV shows or it can either be a game.Don’t ever think its boring.

It is the time we are investing in them which will be rewarded to us in so many ways,we are unaware of.

Sixth, we should teach our children especially boys to respect women of all age brackets.When we will observe a value system, our self, they automatically will follow it.

And if we are not clear our self why do we expect them to be clear.So the lines have to be clearly defined.

Seventh, never insult your children in front of any one especially your maternal and paternal relations not to mention the outside world.

For in the longer run if they turn out to be totally the opposite of what they were,they would never be appreciated for what they have become but would always be remembered as who they were.

Eighth, trust your children in what they tell you.If you trust them today,they will not betray your trust in future but if its vice versa you have deformed them for life.

At the same time, as a parent you need to have a hawk eye.After all you are the parent and know your child in and out. However, no need to make it obvious to them.Observe and apply.

Ninth, to make them a productive citizen of the community,set a positive example in front of them. As it is said; Do unto others as you want others to do unto you.

Lastly, I would ask all mothers out there to keep on observing from other people’s lives who have raised wonderful sons.Interview them, talk to them and see what different have they done and you are missing.

It is always good to learn from other people’s experiences rather than going through the same mistakes.

I would like to add that there is no ready made recipe for bringing up boys.We have to experiment with each and every stage of children’s growing up.

Some things might work well with one child whereas for the others totally a different set of strategies might be needed.

But what is more efficient is your communication with the child.Only this, will help you in understanding the true nature of your children and act accordingly.

In the end, I would like to express my gratitude to all mothers who despite of their professional life,hectic household chores still try their best to balance their lives and in that balancing work hard to raise good children especially boys.

Happy Reading.