“When you’re out on the road touring and touring and then making
records, you’re just constantly looking forward, constantly working. You
don’t really stop to look at where you are or where you’ve been”.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so
as to have the life that is waiting for us”
E. M. Forster
A CHANGED BODY: HERE IS WHERE I EXIST
Have you ever had the feeling of being unacceptable for the way you look? About your changed body. I have it every day.
Today, I will give you another insight into a married woman’s life and the role people play in her day-to-day life. So let’s start.
A girl/woman goes through many phases before she is accepted to be someone’s life partner. The real test starts after the marriage.
However, she makes so many compromises and sacrifices to make an ideal marriage. She is always lurking on the edge to make it work.
Sometimes even fighting with the insecurities she might face. So, everyone has its own monsters/battles to fight.
I fight my battles every day with the acidic people in my surroundings who keep on reminding me about the way I look.
And the weight I have put on, the spots I have on my face, and whatnot. How do I deal with them? I will tell you shortly.
A question for the sensible people out there. Does being married to a girl /woman who is beautiful before marriage put a tag around her neck of being sold to you?
You got it right. She is married and not sold to you. Being beautiful from the outside forever is not a guarantee that you sign in your marriage contract.
However, the marriage contract does not say that the apparent beauty cannot expire. It may expire soon or late but what won’t expire is that what lies inside her/you/me.
Women and their bodies change at an incredible speed after childbirth. Does that mean they have left their inner beauty? Not at all.
Then why do husbands fail to see it? Their only concern is the outside beauty. I have seen women kill themselves to get their pre-pregnancy bodies back.
Seriously, how good is the outside physique if it is being rotten bit by bit by your(husband’s) acidic remarks.
Physical beauty might be a small part of a relationship but for sensible people, it is not even that factor. In Pakistan, most people marry for looks, wealth, and all that sparkle.
Virtuous women don’t look for these things in a husband. They need husbands who can respect them and accept them, cherish them, no matter how ugly they might become.
Physical beauty is a factor that needs to be eliminated in marriages and there is a dire need to change the mindset of the majority.
To me, this is the height of sacrifice, a woman makes to complete the family; knowing she may or may not come back to her normal self/physical state, but she is ready to take the risk.
Both my pregnancies were difficult ones. At my daughter’s birth, I had shooting blood pressure and had to go for a C-section.
Similarly, at my son’s birth, I had borderline, Diabetics. So, I had another C-section.
Now, I have neither Diabetics nor blood pressure but have a changed body along with the most beautiful kids in my life who are my pillars of strength.
I am not embarrassed by the way I look. I have been blessed with what people will give millions to have.
I live every day for them as they are my strength. I might be many people’s strength but my strength lies in their smiles, their wishes, their joys, and the people I love, etc.,
Anyone can survive acidic husbands if they have strengths in their lives. These strengths can be in the form of good friends, colleagues, sisters, brothers, aunts, acquaintances, followers, etc.,
In a changed body, here is where I exist. I have a wonderful audience who waits to read about what essence I have to share with them.
Those who can draw so many lessons from a single or multitudes of lives. Who make me go on in my endeavors to bring good around me.
So much so help me stay positive and on the right track. Thanks for being my pillars of strength.