Hello Folks!

As an individual, Educational institution, and even as a parent, you must have faced this; how to talk with parents when it concerns the progress of a child. In Pakistan, very few know these successful strategies that concern these basic areas.

So today, I will discuss with you a few successful strategies that will give you food for thought to incorporate in your systems and capacity building programmes for the teachers. So let’s start.

The first successful strategy to win parents is to have Clarity. As an institution, or even as an individual, one needs to know exactly what they are going to say to the parents and mean it and ensure it whether they have been understood clearly.

As most of the time parents are communicated things in a vague manner which leaves many questions unanswered and the concerned teachers don’t ensure whether they have been successful in delivering their message across the board.

There is no need to feel shy if you have to repeat yourself even for a trillion times.No one will be offended.

The second successful strategy would be to have a professional attitude. Be friendly yet a professional. As a teacher or institution or even a parent do not discuss other people’s negativity or apply it on the child concerned.

In Pakistan, most schools and their staff fail to understand that comparisons and negativity lead nowhere. Its an institution we are talking about.

To cater to these challenges proper training need to be imparted along with developing and cultivating a proper mindset.

The third successful strategy to win parents would be a Positive Attitude. Such an attitude needs to be seen in practice too.

When one can help parents in positively parenting their child without patronizing their capabilities for their child’s upbringing, then the positive attitude is seen at its best.

Also, this positivity is seen when you as an institution, an individual and a parent can add to the learning capability of a child. This is why institutions were made. Are we practising this stuff in our institutions?

The fourth successful strategy to win parents would be to have Backups. By backup, I mean that you need to support what you are saying in terms of sample work or some kind of documentation.

If you have worked on a similar situation with some other child, you can always document that and show it to the parents in your scheduled meetings.

In Pakistan people in institutions go by words from the mouth. That is all the authenticity, you will receive here. To win the parents trust, you need to bring in the documentation to support yourself.

The fifth strategy to win parents is the need to be Flexible. There is always room for improvement provided you are open to suggestions. Being in charge of the situation does not mean you are all in all.

There would be times when the situation requires improvising new strategies and coming up with an alternative plan of action.

There are not many schools in Pakistan who are up for these mind-changing flexibilities. Their word is against the suffering parents and their children. At the end of the day. what are they producing in the form of lots? This, I will answer at the end.

The sixth successful strategy to have winning parents is to Include children wherever possible. Making children part of a discussion always help in the long run. It gives children the confidence that they too matter.

A discussion only concerning the parents and the institution is rather a dead discussion.

The child needs to know what’s going on regarding him or her. It makes them understand their responsibility and what is required of them. Children young(10-onwards) and mature should always be made a part of such discussions.

And Lastly, every teacher should know the course they are teaching and explain it in a layman’s term to the parents. In Pakistan, mostly teacher’s are not clear themselves about the syllabus.

How can you expect them to explain it to the parents? There should be sessions regarding syllabus and explained well to the parents so that parents are at par with the teachers and school and likewise.

These are some of the successful strategies that can help any institution win parents. As parents, we are all trying to work towards a common goal which is the growth of a learner/child.

But the strategies being used at present in the educational institutions are producing cattle and slaves with no mind of their own. A mind to only receive orders and not think. For those who think are treated no less than an outcast or even as misfits.

But let me remind you, it is the misfits who are the cause of change in a rotten society. They are the real agents of change and are finally addressed as heroes or heroines when they achieve their true worth and show to the world what they are capable of.

It is not a lot to think about. Still think about it if you want to have a win-win situation.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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Hello Folks!

It’s been a while since I have been thinking to write on this topic. With the incidents going on in a couple of weeks, I suppose this is the best time to address this issue.

Today, I aim to talk about Frustrations. What might be the causes and what is it doing to people in general. So let’s start.

With the backdrop of COVID-19, most of us are stuck in our homes deliberately. Now many of us have catered for it by involving ourselves in productive activities.

Still, here are a handful of people who are very unproductive during such times. Such as children, adolescents,labour class, unemployed adults, any college, university students etc.,

The whole point of mentioning these here is that they are not utilizing their energies for productivity rather they have engaged themselves in futile activities that are leading to frustration.

Consider a typical family of 4-6 members. Leaving earning members of the family, those at home are either on some gadgets or watching something all day long.

They are the ones who need to be monitored most as parents/guardians/livelihood earners being out of the house have no idea about what is going on at the back of their(people at home) minds.

In order to know, what is going on please friends whether you are parents, couples, colleagues, best buddies, siblings, talk things out with each other before its too late.

There are many manifestations of being frustrated. Like not having someone to talk to regarding how you feel about certain things. Growing up teens and youth need someone to talk to. The best people for the purpose are the ones you are close too.

You cannot randomly just pick up someone on the social platform and start talking to him/her. Everyone has his/her sensitive points. Why bother people with what they know not of.

Also, they might not be comfortable in addressing your questions.Talking to someone you consider a friend is good but even that friend might have limitations regarding the disposition of specific knowledge.

So, dear friends, it is always better to seek professional advice if you are in desperate need. Sometimes taking the easy option out might cost you a great deal of pain before you revert to the right way.

I can advise you and suggest these things because I have learnt these over the years through experience and it is the essence of my life, I want you to have and make good use of it.

After all, I too am human and can err but the best of us is the one who learns from others mistakes rather than making new ones.

For the adults and youth who think and feel as they are stranded in this scenario, don’t lose hope.There is always the best to come. So be grateful for what you have and have gratitude for even the minutest.

And for those who are on the social platform 24/7, please breathe and let others breathe too.Someone trying to address your issues, encourage them rather than being pain in the ass for them.

They are trying to provide you a bright future, a life you can be grateful for, for the years to come. Respect them and consider them your guardian angels.

Don’t throw things at them just because they write openly. They place themselves in your shoes and respond accordingly.

Don’t show your frustrations to them. They are only trying to help you out through this community service of being there. Think about it. Unitl next time, stay Safe and Healthy.

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Hello Folks!


What do you think is the most difficult thing to do in life? I know, you too will be thinking of the same thing. It is Catharsis. So, today, I aim at talking about catharsis and how to deal with it. So, let’s start.


Every one of us now and then has to face the music in one or the other form. Real success is how you as an individual deal with it. Most of our pains come from our core family as compared to the outside world.


These are the pains that torment our entire being in and out. What matters at the end is how we pull through the stress and torment.


It is a sorry state of affairs when one sees blood relations turning against you on the account of finances especially when you serve the treasure as the most honest being.


Money can undoubtedly turn a friend to a foe and blood relations to your worse enemies. As an individual, I have seen and heard people killing their sacrosanct relatives for the love of money.


The more you have it, the less you think about the feelings and pains of the other.


Those of you who have a less amount of money, be contented with it, and don’t ask for more because you have not seen the worst it can bring out of you.


And even if you do ask for it, never forget from where you started; as a reminder always help us in achieving ultimate goals and making us realize who our real well-wishers are.


Always rely on your sole self without looking at the hands of other people. During your life journey, you may come across many good people. Be welcoming to them and accept them for you never know they might be more truthful then your blood relations.


And rely on your capabilities and the help of God. For all happens in this life and the hereafter at His will.


The trapped emotions and pain can only find their way out in the form of Catharsis. Now it’s up to you how you make way for it. The most productive way is to let it out in the form of tears.


All your sorrows and pain will be out in no time and you will feel lighter.


Also, talk to someone you trust. Someone who is a good listener. Someone who knows you and can understand your emotions and pain. Not everyone wants to know your pain.


Some will share your pain but will want something in return. Be aware of the kind. You might be walking in a dead-end before you know it.


Crying, my friends is not a weakness. It only shows that you are a human and can feel the bullshit of people.


So whenever, you can’t handle the pressure just let tears trickle down your cheeks and let it out.


You should always know that there is no power greater than God Himself. Revert to Him. He will answer your prayers and pay you in the most unexpected forms.


Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.


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Hello Folks!

I often feel happy when I see a smiling face/Happy Children. Have you ever wondered the reason behind a smiling face? Today, I aim to discuss the reasons behind a smiling face. So, let’s start.

The first reason behind a smiling face/happy children is a conducive environment. Children are prone to be happier when they have happy parents.

Parents who are cribbing and fighting all the time may not have happy children.

The second reason behind a smiling face/happy children depends on the amount of time you are willing to invest in your children. Growing up children require more of your time and attention.

As parents, if you want to see them smiling and happy, start sowing the seed from this moment. So you can enjoy the fruit in the future.

The third reason behind a smiling face/happy children is the availability of choices in life. The more you as a parent are open to options for your children, the happier are the children.

The results depend on you, my friend.

The fourth reason behind a smiling face / happy children is to listen to your children patiently. They are curious by nature. At times they will pose you questions that will blow your head off.

No need to be mad at them, listen to them with patience and try to answer their questions. It will only strengthen your bond with them. Children need the surety, who to come to when they are in need.

And that’s what you want. Right.

The fifth reason behind smiling faces/happy children is understanding your children. There are all types of children; easy-going, medium, and difficult ones. You need to understand their requirements and act according to their nature.

That my friend is called parenting.

The sixth reason behind smiling faces/ happy children is how you reward them when they make you happy. What matters is your response to their achievement not what you give them.

They are children. They can be happy with just a hug or applause or candy. You do not have to burden yourself financially to show them you are happy with them.

Big rewards, you may want to save for big occasions such as Birthdays or family get together or promotions, or even Christmas.

And Lastly, Value their friends as you value your children. Do keep an open eye on their company, talk about their friends, and do try to establish contact with their parents.

In the end, I would like to say that all children are born with a smiling face. It is we who alone can turn them into monsters. We need to curtail the monsters in our being and let them have a happier childhood and a smiling future.…gh-their-actions/

Think about it before it is too late.

Stay safe and healthy until next time.

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Hello Everyone!

As a child, I used to observe people around me who were said to be led by the “silent killer”. I often asked this question from my elders as to what are people talking about and who is the silent killer? Is it a person or what is it? They never answered my innocent questions. I was awed by the silent killer. Those whom I loved or cared about were taken away by the “silent killer”. And I was clueless. Today, I will talk about the silent killer and how it has shaped my life.

Growing up, always thinking about the silent killer, I thought of fighting it when I reach the age of my elders or perhaps earlier if I get to meet him/her. Unfortunately, I never got the chance to meet the “silent killer”. However, I was fortunate enough to meet other silent killers. I coped with them one by one and each one transformed me into a better me.

My first silent killer was my final Graduation result which was not sufficient to get me admission in the History Department of Quaid e Azam University on merit basis. Back in 2000’s, it was a prestigious university, it still is. I did make it in the self finance quota but that was against my pride.

I had applied in the University of Modern Languages, which equally was a prestigious university. There, I was not only given admission on merit but rather it came as a blessing in disguise. I, not only completed the program with flying colors but was offered a place to teach in the English department to the Masters’ student. It was a matter of great pride for me. I took this opportunity, and fulfilled it successfully.

After, a period of two years, I moved to a second phase of my life; my second “secret killer”. The country’s Central Superior Services Examination, which makes the Bureaucracy. I, worked really hard for it, passed the written but could not make it in the services. God has His ways. I was supposed to go elsewhere. At that moment, I just did not know where I was meant to be. It was a dark phase of my life. This “secret killer”, was killing me slowly but then…

There was light which I found on the platform of NOMAD arts gallery and cultural center. Since childhood, I had a passion for drawing and putting my thoughts on paper and canvas with whatever medium was available to me. The first six months of my time there, were mostly drawn in black ink. It was my transformation both worldly and spiritually that drew me towards colors again. I am thankful to my elder sister and mentors who saw the real me and exposed me towards this venue.

From, here started my journey which ever since has transformed me into a better version everyday. Not only have I exhibited my work in various galleries but have allowed me to learn a little more about me and the world around me.

I, have learnt to face my “secret killers”, through pain and turmoil, through experimentation and change,through solitude and meditation and through listening and expressing. All those who are troubled with or have “silent killers” with them, my advice to you all is to face them, talk it out with someone who will not judge you, be confident in the things you do. Take hold of a medium/skill you are good at and develop that. Everything that surrounds us is for a reason and has value of its own. Read it, understand it and follow it. Give a meaning to your life.

In the end, I would say, know your “silent killer” before it becomes your “real killer”.