LISTENING IS BETTER THAN SPEAKING
It was a cold winter morning like any other winter mornings. I sat off to my morning walk in a nearby park. After having done one cycle of walk, I saw a young boy of 12 or so years standing by the side, wearing no cardigan or the sort that could keep him warm in that chilly winter. I asked him to join me in my walk so he might get a little warmer. So he did.
Just as we started walking, he started telling me things which were at the top of his mind. One of the foremost was earning a livelihood. He kept on talking on different topics. And all this time, I listened to him. People walking, jogging in the park would turn around to see who was talking. I let him do most of the talking except where my speaking was necessary.
We had a good walk of 30 to 40 minutes. He was warm enough. I knew what he was there for and that’s what I gave him. He needed someone he could talk to without judging him or looking into his life making him miserable than he already was. This continued for a couple of months. Every day, he would share something new and I would listen to him and he would end his walk with Thanks.
After sometime, I met him in the park again. This time, he was dressed according to the weather and was very happy. He thanked me and told me that he took my advice of educating himself along with learning and mastering a skill he was good at.
He used to play football in the same park, I used to walk in. His hard work, did bring him laurels. He was selected in the local football team and with his hard work he will surely, one day make it to the International team. I was very happy for him.
Sometimes, it is better just to listen to what people have to say rather than imposing one thoughts onto them. We do not have the answer to everything .All we can do, in our capacity is to make them feel comfortable so they can share a fragment of their lives with you. And you in return by just listening to them can make a change.
We as human beings are bestowed with a great many gifts and capabilities yet we are unaware of them. If we could just try to focus on the now instead of giving our self away to the future, we can all make a change in small or big way. Our small gesture of consideration might be a big change in the eyes or life of the other. One never knows..
In the end, I would like to say that our now can become our future if we stay on the right course and be pretentious free. Sometimes, people and things just come out of the blue. Have an open heart and mind to receive them and do not forget to listen to them. And if you are not comfortable with ones thoughts try staying away.