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JOURNEY OF THE SOUL;UPCLOSE AND PERSONAL

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JOURNEY OF THE SOUL;

UPCLOSE AND PERSONAL

Hello Folks!

Today, I will share with you the life story of a woman who went through many struggles in her life to be the person that she now is and from whose blogs, you take great inspiration.

It’s a journey of the soul. So let the curtains unveil.

Born in a family of four siblings, always treated lesser, based on skin tone and intelligence, a forceps delivery, as I was told was the reason for my being the way I am. I weaved a castle of imagination around me.

I lived in that imaginary world where I was a hero and made an impact on society.

I had to struggle to fit in with my surroundings and the school at large. Low in confidence and always being bullied by the better, posh, and popular lot.

Still determined to prove myself one day.

I was still my father’s favorite. He loved me despite my looks and intelligence and I loved him selflessly.

As I grew older and took interest in subjects of my liking, I began to excel in my studies and finding like-minded people like me who saw my capabilities and not my flaws.

All my childhood, I suffered from comparisons and not being good enough but my innate nature couldn’t be changed that is spreading happiness around and helping ones like me, I could in my own way.

Even at this time, at the age of 43, people who I call family, say mean things to me. My family (blood bindings) whom I have always put first then my own family (husband and children).

Have tried to keep them happy, still off and on, have been blamed for the embezzlement of money, and other mean things, just because I take care of my old father.

Most of the time, I listen to them just thinking, maybe I am living in my fathers’ house with my family for my father gives everyone the right to treat me that way.

My children often get emotional and angry saying that why don’t you tell them what you tell us? Why can’t they just leave you alone? Next time so and so khala (aunt)does this, we will tell them.

And I always tell them that it is bad manners and Allah is looking and He will take care of them.

They too suffer because they see their mother suffering at the hands of her loved ones. Though children, they want to say things to them but then think about how, I will feel, stop and take their distances.

I can’t erase the harsh talk out of their minds and let them think all is good. They have to face the bitter reality of life, only to be stronger in the future.

Off and on there have been times where I have desperately felt the need of being independent and telling everyone that I am not dependent on them or their mercy.

Many times in my life, I have fallen and got back again on my foot, thinking about what kind of life I want for my children.

I can sense the dejection going into my children. They were not brought into this world to go through the demise, I am going through.

I want them to have a smooth life and am willing to make/making the necessary sacrifices for their good future.

We have just one life and we have to utilize it to the best of our capabilities. I want to utilize all my talents, help other people along the way and show them a beacon of light.

The purpose of this blog is to motivate the fallen souls who think that being born in a good wealthy family is a privilege. Well, folks, it’s not.

Some learn it the easy way and some learn it the hard way. The more close we are to our basics, the easy it is for us to excel.

One is a prince or princess till the parents are alive as after them or when they themselves are dependent, you are no one’s prince or princess, not even your husband owns you.

You and you alone have to make this difference.“Thinking is the talking of the soul with itself”https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/soul-quotes.

My journey of the soul is an ongoing journey and I have traveled a long way to reach this point now, from what I was 5 years back to the new version of me now.

I have come a long way, learned a lot from like-minded, transformed a lot with mentors, and groomed a lot with the help of sincere and honest friends and readers like you.

Life is not a bed of roses. It never has been.

Struggling, yet determined woman on the run to make a difference in the lives around me and those who look at me in infancy.

I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, a mother, and to many an influencer, a challenge who is changing the way of thinking at large.

I say what I think is right and practice what I believe is right. I don’t do comparisons, am not judgemental. I am the same person for all, whoever approaches.

Being an empath, I can feel what others can’t say because I go through the same feelings every day by connecting to people. We all have a purpose in this world.

My purpose is to ease other people’s life. And make them want to live their life constructively.

I am no counselor, just a human being who understands a multitude of emotions, a good friend, and a listening ear.

As an individual, I would recommend all the fallen angels suffering from meanness find a source you can, use as catharsis, your life will change. It changed mine.https://www.sabahataamir.com/catharsis-2/

As humans, let’s help each other to come out of their shells, have a voice and be productive in meaningful ways.

Think about it.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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A CHANGED BODY: HERE IS WHERE I EXIST

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A CHANGED BODY: HERE IS WHERE I EXIST

Hello Folks!

Have you ever had the feeling of being unacceptable for the way you look? About your changed body, about your existence, I have it every day.

Today, I will give you another insight into a married woman’s life and the role people play in her day-to-day life. So let’s start.

A girl/woman goes through many phases before she is accepted to be someone’s life partner. The real test starts after the marriage.

However, she makes so many compromises and sacrifices to make an ideal marriage. She is always lurking on the edge to make it work.

Sometimes even fighting with the insecurities she might face. So, everyone has their own monsters/battles to fight.

I fight my battles every day with the acidic people in my surroundings who keep on reminding me about the way I look.

And the weight I have put on, the spots I have on my face, and whatnot. How do I deal with them? I will tell you shortly.

A question for the sensible people out there. Does being married to a girl /woman who is beautiful before marriage put a tag around her neck of being sold to you?

You got it right. She is married and not sold to you. Being beautiful from the outside forever is not a guarantee that you sign in your marriage contract.

However, the marriage contract does not say that apparent beauty cannot expire. It may expire soon or late but what won’t expire is that what lies inside her/you/me.

Women and their bodies change at an incredible speed after childbirth. Does that mean they have left their inner beauty? Not at all.

Then why do husbands fail to see it? Their only concern is the outside beauty. I have seen women kill themselves to get their pre-pregnancy bodies back.

Seriously, how good is the outside physique if it is being rotten bit by bit by your(husband’s) acidic remarks.

Physical beauty might be a small part of a relationship but for sensible people, it is not even that factor. In Pakistan, most people marry for looks, wealth, and all that sparkle.

Virtuous women don’t look for these things in a husband. They need husbands who can respect them and accept them, cherish them, no matter how ugly they might become.

Physical beauty https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness is a factor that needs to be eliminated in marriages and there is a dire need to change the mindset of the majority.

In a changed body; this is the height of sacrifice, a woman makes to complete the family; knowing she may or may not come back to her normal self/physical state, but she is ready to take the risk.

Both my pregnancies were difficult ones. At my daughter’s birth, I had shooting blood pressure and had to go for a C-section.

Similarly, at my son’s birth, I had borderline, Diabetics. So, I had another C-section.

Now, I have neither Diabetics nor blood pressure but have a changed body along with the most beautiful kids in my life who are my pillars of strength.

I am not embarrassed by the way I look. I have been blessed with what people will give millions to have.

I live every day for them as they are my strength. I might be many people’s strength but my strength lies in their smiles, their wishes, their joys, and the people I love, etc.,

Anyone can survive acidic husbands if they have strengths in their lives. These strengths can be in the form of good friends, colleagues, sisters, brothers, aunts, acquaintances, followers, etc.,

In a changed body, here is where I exist. I have a wonderful audience who waits to read about what essence I have to share with them.

Those who can draw so many lessons from a single or multitudes of lives. Who make me go on in my endeavors to bring good around me.

So much so help me stay positive and on the right track. Thanks for being my pillars of strength.https://www.sabahataamir.com/body-size-does-n…ock-good-clothes/

In the end, I would like to say to all husbands out there to cherish their wives. Life is too short to waste on exchanging acidic remarks. Live each day as it is your last day.

Don’t accumulate bad memories to regret when time slips away from the hands

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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JOURNEY OF THE SOUL;

UPCLOSE AND PERSONAL

Hello Folks!

Today, I will share with you the life story of a woman who went through many struggles in her life to be the person that she now is and from whose blogs, you take great inspiration.

It’s a journey of the soul. So let the curtains unveil.

Born in a family of four siblings, always treated lesser, based on skin tone and intelligence, a forceps delivery, as I was told was the reason for my being the way I am. I weaved a castle of imagination around me.

I lived in that imaginary world where I was a hero and made an impact on society.

I had to struggle to fit in with my surroundings and the school at large. Low in confidence and always being bullied by the better, posh, and popular lot.

Still determined to prove myself one day.

I was still my father’s favorite. He loved me despite my looks and intelligence and I loved him selflessly.

As I grew older and took interest in subjects of my liking, I began to excel in my studies and finding like-minded people like me who saw my capabilities and not my flaws.

All my childhood, I suffered from comparisons and not being good enough but my innate nature couldn’t be changed that is spreading happiness around and helping ones like me, I could in my own way.

Even at this time, at the age of 43, people who I call family, say mean things to me. My family (blood bindings) whom I have always put first then my own family (husband and children).

Have tried to keep them happy, still off and on, have been blamed for the embezzlement of money, and other mean things, just because I take care of my old father.

Most of the time, I listen to them just thinking, maybe I am living in my fathers’ house with my family for my father gives everyone the right to treat me that way.

My children often get emotional and angry saying that why don’t you tell them what you tell us? Why can’t they just leave you alone? Next time so and so khala (aunt)does this, we will tell them.

And I always tell them that it is bad manners and Allah is looking and He will take care of them.

They too suffer because they see their mother suffering at the hands of her loved ones. Though children, they want to say things to them but then think about how, I will feel, stop and take their distances.

I can’t erase the harsh talk out of their minds and let them think all is good. They have to face the bitter reality of life, only to be stronger in the future.

Off and on there have been times where I have desperately felt the need of being independent and telling everyone that I am not dependent on them or their mercy.

Many times in my life, I have fallen and got back again on my foot, thinking about what kind of life I want for my children.

I can sense the dejection going into my children. They were not brought into this world to go through the demise, I am going through.

I want them to have a smooth life and am willing to make/making the necessary sacrifices for their good future.

We have just one life and we have to utilize it to the best of our capabilities. I want to utilize all my talents, help other people along the way and show them a beacon of light.

The purpose of this blog is to motivate the fallen souls who think that being born in a good wealthy family is a privilege. Well, folks, it’s not.

Some learn it the easy way and some learn it the hard way. The more close we are to our basics, the easy it is for us to excel.

One is a prince or princess till the parents are alive as after them or when they themselves are dependent, you are no one’s prince or princess, not even your husband owns you.

You and you alone have to make this difference.“Thinking is the talking of the soul with itself”https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/soul-quotes.

My journey of the soul is an ongoing journey and I have traveled a long way to reach this point now, from what I was 5 years back to the new version of me now.

I have come a long way, learned a lot from like-minded, transformed a lot with mentors, and groomed a lot with the help of sincere and honest friends and readers like you.

Life is not a bed of roses. It never has been.

Struggling, yet determined woman on the run to make a difference in the lives around me and those who look at me in infancy.

I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, a mother, and to many an influencer, a challenge who is changing the way of thinking at large.

I say what I think is right and practice what I believe is right. I don’t do comparisons, am not judgemental. I am the same person for all, whoever approaches.

Being an empath, I can feel what others can’t say because I go through the same feelings every day by connecting to people. We all have a purpose in this world.

My purpose is to ease other people’s life. And make them want to live their life constructively.

I am no counselor, just a human being who understands a multitude of emotions, a good friend, and a listening ear.

As an individual, I would recommend all the fallen angels suffering from meanness find a source you can, use as catharsis, your life will change. It changed mine.https://www.sabahataamir.com/catharsis-2/

As humans, let’s help each other to come out of their shells, have a voice and be productive in meaningful ways.

Think about it.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

sabahat

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A CHANGED BODY: HERE IS WHERE I EXIST

Hello Folks!

Have you ever had the feeling of being unacceptable for the way you look? About your changed body, about your existence, I have it every day.

Today, I will give you another insight into a married woman’s life and the role people play in her day-to-day life. So let’s start.

A girl/woman goes through many phases before she is accepted to be someone’s life partner. The real test starts after the marriage.

However, she makes so many compromises and sacrifices to make an ideal marriage. She is always lurking on the edge to make it work.

Sometimes even fighting with the insecurities she might face. So, everyone has their own monsters/battles to fight.

I fight my battles every day with the acidic people in my surroundings who keep on reminding me about the way I look.

And the weight I have put on, the spots I have on my face, and whatnot. How do I deal with them? I will tell you shortly.

A question for the sensible people out there. Does being married to a girl /woman who is beautiful before marriage put a tag around her neck of being sold to you?

You got it right. She is married and not sold to you. Being beautiful from the outside forever is not a guarantee that you sign in your marriage contract.

However, the marriage contract does not say that apparent beauty cannot expire. It may expire soon or late but what won’t expire is that what lies inside her/you/me.

Women and their bodies change at an incredible speed after childbirth. Does that mean they have left their inner beauty? Not at all.

Then why do husbands fail to see it? Their only concern is the outside beauty. I have seen women kill themselves to get their pre-pregnancy bodies back.

Seriously, how good is the outside physique if it is being rotten bit by bit by your(husband’s) acidic remarks.

Physical beauty might be a small part of a relationship but for sensible people, it is not even that factor. In Pakistan, most people marry for looks, wealth, and all that sparkle.

Virtuous women don’t look for these things in a husband. They need husbands who can respect them and accept them, cherish them, no matter how ugly they might become.

Physical beauty https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness is a factor that needs to be eliminated in marriages and there is a dire need to change the mindset of the majority.

In a changed body; this is the height of sacrifice, a woman makes to complete the family; knowing she may or may not come back to her normal self/physical state, but she is ready to take the risk.

Both my pregnancies were difficult ones. At my daughter’s birth, I had shooting blood pressure and had to go for a C-section.

Similarly, at my son’s birth, I had borderline, Diabetics. So, I had another C-section.

Now, I have neither Diabetics nor blood pressure but have a changed body along with the most beautiful kids in my life who are my pillars of strength.

I am not embarrassed by the way I look. I have been blessed with what people will give millions to have.