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THE CATALYST

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THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

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FLAWS OF PARENTING

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FLAWS OF PARENTING

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Have you ever wondered even parents, too can commit serious crimes in the name of Parenting?

Today, I will share with you what are the things that give birth to Flawed Parenting? So, let’s start.

Firstly, as a parent, it is our responsibility to give the best products to the community in the form of children who will make the future generations.

And in doing this, we need to be very strict in terms of the values that we are imparting.

Secondly, while imparting the core values of love, respect, honesty, care, help, etc, are we as parents observing the same thing? If not, then we should know how the product would be.

Another thing that adds to flawed parenting is the emotions of jealously, love, hate, pain, etc.

These are natural emotions and some emotions need to be subsided to have the best product but if as parents, you try to cover up their mischiefs, you are committing a crime and giving rise to flawed parenting.

Fourthly, actions have repercussions. Any mistake that is committed and tried to be concealed leads to crimes of grave nature.

To prevent such crimes, own up these mistakes and teach your children the same.

Fifthly, as a parent, you might be successful in preventing your children from a small incident but in the longer run, it will only make your child insecure and fearful.

Children who face bullying or are treated weak and told to be strong often turn out to be stronger than the bullies in the long run.

They are not bullies but are the real fighters and that is the real product the world needs.

It is my humble request to all parents who think covering up for a child will benefit him or her is grievously wrong in doing so.

You are turning them into a monster who thinks can get away with anything. But in the long run, such monsters are always crushed by their own benefactors.

Think about it before it is too late.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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A CHANGED BODY: HERE IS WHERE I EXIST

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A CHANGED BODY: HERE IS WHERE I EXIST

Hello Folks!

Have you ever had the feeling of being unacceptable for the way you look? About your changed body, about your existence, I have it every day.

Today, I will give you another insight into a married woman’s life and the role people play in her day-to-day life. So let’s start.

A girl/woman goes through many phases before she is accepted to be someone’s life partner. The real test starts after the marriage.

However, she makes so many compromises and sacrifices to make an ideal marriage. She is always lurking on the edge to make it work.

Sometimes even fighting with the insecurities she might face. So, everyone has their own monsters/battles to fight.

I fight my battles every day with the acidic people in my surroundings who keep on reminding me about the way I look.

And the weight I have put on, the spots I have on my face, and whatnot. How do I deal with them? I will tell you shortly.

A question for the sensible people out there. Does being married to a girl /woman who is beautiful before marriage put a tag around her neck of being sold to you?

You got it right. She is married and not sold to you. Being beautiful from the outside forever is not a guarantee that you sign in your marriage contract.

However, the marriage contract does not say that apparent beauty cannot expire. It may expire soon or late but what won’t expire is that what lies inside her/you/me.

Women and their bodies change at an incredible speed after childbirth. Does that mean they have left their inner beauty? Not at all.

Then why do husbands fail to see it? Their only concern is the outside beauty. I have seen women kill themselves to get their pre-pregnancy bodies back.

Seriously, how good is the outside physique if it is being rotten bit by bit by your(husband’s) acidic remarks.

Physical beauty might be a small part of a relationship but for sensible people, it is not even that factor. In Pakistan, most people marry for looks, wealth, and all that sparkle.

Virtuous women don’t look for these things in a husband. They need husbands who can respect them and accept them, cherish them, no matter how ugly they might become.

Physical beauty https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness is a factor that needs to be eliminated in marriages and there is a dire need to change the mindset of the majority.

In a changed body; this is the height of sacrifice, a woman makes to complete the family; knowing she may or may not come back to her normal self/physical state, but she is ready to take the risk.

Both my pregnancies were difficult ones. At my daughter’s birth, I had shooting blood pressure and had to go for a C-section.

Similarly, at my son’s birth, I had borderline, Diabetics. So, I had another C-section.

Now, I have neither Diabetics nor blood pressure but have a changed body along with the most beautiful kids in my life who are my pillars of strength.

I am not embarrassed by the way I look. I have been blessed with what people will give millions to have.

I live every day for them as they are my strength. I might be many people’s strength but my strength lies in their smiles, their wishes, their joys, and the people I love, etc.,

Anyone can survive acidic husbands if they have strengths in their lives. These strengths can be in the form of good friends, colleagues, sisters, brothers, aunts, acquaintances, followers, etc.,

In a changed body, here is where I exist. I have a wonderful audience who waits to read about what essence I have to share with them.

Those who can draw so many lessons from a single or multitudes of lives. Who make me go on in my endeavors to bring good around me.

So much so help me stay positive and on the right track. Thanks for being my pillars of strength.https://www.sabahataamir.com/body-size-does-n…ock-good-clothes/

In the end, I would like to say to all husbands out there to cherish their wives. Life is too short to waste on exchanging acidic remarks. Live each day as it is your last day.

Don’t accumulate bad memories to regret when time slips away from the hands

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

Happy Reading!

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FLAWS OF PARENTING

Hello Folks!

Have you ever wondered even parents, too can commit serious crimes in the name of Parenting?

Today, I will share with you what are the things that give birth to Flawed Parenting? So, let’s start.

Firstly, as a parent, it is our responsibility to give the best products to the community in the form of children who will make the future generations.

And in doing this, we need to be very strict in terms of the values that we are imparting.

Secondly, while imparting the core values of love, respect, honesty, care, help, etc, are we as parents observing the same thing? If not, then we should know how the product would be.

Another thing that adds to flawed parenting is the emotions of jealously, love, hate, pain, etc.

These are natural emotions and some emotions need to be subsided to have the best product but if as parents, you try to cover up their mischiefs, you are committing a crime and giving rise to flawed parenting.

Fourthly, actions have repercussions. Any mistake that is committed and tried to be concealed leads to crimes of grave nature.

To prevent such crimes, own up these mistakes and teach your children the same.

Fifthly, as a parent, you might be successful in preventing your children from a small incident but in the longer run, it will only make your child insecure and fearful.

Children who face bullying or are treated weak and told to be strong often turn out to be stronger than the bullies in the long run.

They are not bullies but are the real fighters and that is the real product the world needs.

It is my humble request to all parents who think covering up for a child will benefit him or her is grievously wrong in doing so.

You are turning them into a monster who thinks can get away with anything. But in the long run, such monsters are always crushed by their own benefactors.

Think about it before it is too late.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

Happy Reading!

Share this:

Like this:

A CHANGED BODY: HERE IS WHERE I EXIST

Hello Folks!

Have you ever had the feeling of being unacceptable for the way you look? About your changed body, about your existence, I have it every day.

Today, I will give you another insight into a married woman’s life and the role people play in her day-to-day life. So let’s start.

A girl/woman goes through many phases before she is accepted to be someone’s life partner. The real test starts after the marriage.

However, she makes so many compromises and sacrifices to make an ideal marriage. She is always lurking on the edge to make it work.

Sometimes even fighting with the insecurities she might face. So, everyone has their own monsters/battles to fight.

I fight my battles every day with the acidic people in my surroundings who keep on reminding me about the way I look.

And the weight I have put on, the spots I have on my face, and whatnot. How do I deal with them? I will tell you shortly.

A question for the sensible people out there. Does being married to a girl /woman who is beautiful before marriage put a tag around her neck of being sold to you?

You got it right. She is married and not sold to you. Being beautiful from the outside forever is not a guarantee that you sign in your marriage contract.

However, the marriage contract does not say that apparent beauty cannot expire. It may expire soon or late but what won’t expire is that what lies inside her/you/me.

Women and their bodies change at an incredible speed after childbirth. Does that mean they have left their inner beauty? Not at all.

Then why do husbands fail to see it? Their only concern is the outside beauty. I have seen women kill themselves to get their pre-pregnancy bodies back.

Seriously, how good is the outside physique if it is being rotten bit by bit by your(husband’s) acidic remarks.

Physical beauty might be a small part of a relationship but for sensible people, it is not even that factor. In Pakistan, most people marry for looks, wealth, and all that sparkle.

Virtuous women don’t look for these things in a husband. They need husbands who can respect them and accept them, cherish them, no matter how ugly they might become.

Physical beauty https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness is a factor that needs to be eliminated in marriages and there is a dire need to change the mindset of the majority.

In a changed body; this is the height of sacrifice, a woman makes to complete the family; knowing she may or may not come back to her normal self/physical state, but she is ready to take the risk.

Both my pregnancies were difficult ones. At my daughter’s birth, I had shooting blood pressure and had to go for a C-section.

Similarly, at my son’s birth, I had borderline, Diabetics. So, I had another C-section.

Now, I have neither Diabetics nor blood pressure but have a changed body along with the most beautiful kids in my life who are my pillars of strength.

I am not embarrassed by the way I look. I have been blessed with what people will give millions to have.

I live every day for them as they are my strength. I might be many people’s strength but my strength lies in their smiles, their wishes, their joys, and the people I love, etc.,

Anyone can survive acidic husbands if they have strengths in their lives. These strengths can be in the form of good friends, colleagues, sisters, brothers, aunts, acquaintances, followers, etc.,

In a changed body, here is where I exist. I have a wonderful audience who waits to read about what essence I have to share with them.