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TIPS ON GROOMING GIRLS/DAUGHTERS PART -1

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TIPS ON GROOMING GIRLS/DAUGHTERS

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October 11, 2021

JOURNEY OF THE SOUL;UPCLOSE AND PERSONAL

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September 11, 2021

TIPS ON GROOMING GIRLS/DAUGHTERS

PART-1

Hello Folks!

As you all know and have experienced or are experiencing, raising girls/daughters can be as tactical as raising boys. Let us dive deep into the tips on how to groom girls/daughters.

We all are faced with great challenges along the way, but what matters is the end product.

The number one tip we as parents can follow in grooming our girls/daughters is to talk things out with them. There is always something going on in their little minds. Whatever is there, does come out sooner or later.

As a parent, it is our responsibility to help them ease their thoughts, however, troublesome might it be. This act will give them the surety that as a parent, we are always there for them.

Secondly, to groom girls/daughters, start assigning small tasks to them. Tasks such as cleaning their rooms, picking up their toys, putting away the dinner plates. This will induce a sense of discipline in them.

Thirdly, You can groom your girls /daughters by trying to assess their likes and dislikes. Some girls might like to wash the dishes yet others might like to prepare food in the kitchen with or without your help. Ask them to help you out with food preparations in the kitchen.

This will not only enhance your bond with them but will also lead them towards being more responsible in the later years of life.

Fourthly, encourage their ideas of creativity or ideas related to money-making. Girls, who have parents’ support at their back tend to make a great success in their future lives as compared to those girls who are always discouraged for their ideas.

Fifthly, spent exclusive time with your daughters/girls like watching their favorite TV shows or it can either be a game or sport or even dressing up. Don’t ever think it’s boring.

It is the time we are investing in them that will be rewarded to us in so many ways, we are unaware of.

Sixth, we should teach our girls/daughter to be vocal in what they think is their right. This is the age when you as a parent are fulfilling your responsibility in giving them awareness to express themselves.

This is the freedom of speech that needs to be emphasized and re-emphasized.

Seventh, girls/daughters are very sensitive to the needs of people around them. Still, just as boys have to be taught to respect women of all age brackets; in the same way, girls/daughters have to be told to practice the same when it comes to men.

When we will observe a value system, our self, they automatically will follow it. And if we are not clear our self why do we expect them to be clear. So the lines have to be clearly defined.

Eighth, never insult your daughters/girls in front of anyone especially your maternal and paternal relations not to mention the outside world.

For, in the long run, if they turn out to be the opposite of what they were, they would never be appreciated for what they have become but would always be remembered as they used to be.

Ninth, trust your children in what they tell you. If you trust them today, they will not betray your trust in the future but if it’s vice versa you have deformed them for life.

At the same time, as a parent, you need to have a hawk-eye. After all, you are the parent and know your girls in and out. However, no need to make it obvious to them. Observe and apply accordingly.

And lastly, to make them productive citizens of the community, set a positive example in front of them. As it is said; Do unto others as you want others to do unto you.

I would ask all mothers out there to keep on observing other people’s lives who have raised wonderful girls/daughters. Interview them, talk to them and see what differences have they done and you are missing.

It is always good to learn from other people’s experiences rather than going through the same mistakes.

I would like to add that there is no ready-made recipe for bringing up girls/daughters. We have to experiment with every stage of children’s growing up.

Some things might work well with one child whereas for the others a different set of strategies might be needed.

But what is more efficient is your communication with the child. Only this, will help you in understanding the true nature of your children and act accordingly.

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JOURNEY OF THE SOUL;

UPCLOSE AND PERSONAL

Hello Folks!

Today, I will share with you the life story of a woman who went through many struggles in her life to be the person that she now is and from whose blogs, you take great inspiration.

It’s a journey of the soul. So let the curtains unveil.

Born in a family of four siblings, always treated lesser, based on skin tone and intelligence, a forceps delivery, as I was told was the reason for my being the way I am. I weaved a castle of imagination around me.

I lived in that imaginary world where I was a hero and made an impact on society.

I had to struggle to fit in with my surroundings and the school at large. Low in confidence and always being bullied by the better, posh, and popular lot.

Still determined to prove myself one day.

I was still my father’s favorite. He loved me despite my looks and intelligence and I loved him selflessly.

As I grew older and took interest in subjects of my liking, I began to excel in my studies and finding like-minded people like me who saw my capabilities and not my flaws.

All my childhood, I suffered from comparisons and not being good enough but my innate nature couldn’t be changed that is spreading happiness around and helping ones like me, I could in my own way.

Even at this time, at the age of 43, people who I call family, say mean things to me. My family (blood bindings) whom I have always put first then my own family (husband and children).

Have tried to keep them happy, still off and on, have been blamed for the embezzlement of money, and other mean things, just because I take care of my old father.

Most of the time, I listen to them just thinking, maybe I am living in my fathers’ house with my family for my father gives everyone the right to treat me that way.

My children often get emotional and angry saying that why don’t you tell them what you tell us? Why can’t they just leave you alone? Next time so and so khala (aunt)does this, we will tell them.

And I always tell them that it is bad manners and Allah is looking and He will take care of them.

They too suffer because they see their mother suffering at the hands of her loved ones. Though children, they want to say things to them but then think about how, I will feel, stop and take their distances.

I can’t erase the harsh talk out of their minds and let them think all is good. They have to face the bitter reality of life, only to be stronger in the future.

Off and on there have been times where I have desperately felt the need of being independent and telling everyone that I am not dependent on them or their mercy.

Many times in my life, I have fallen and got back again on my foot, thinking about what kind of life I want for my children.

I can sense the dejection going into my children. They were not brought into this world to go through the demise, I am going through.

I want them to have a smooth life and am willing to make/making the necessary sacrifices for their good future.

We have just one life and we have to utilize it to the best of our capabilities. I want to utilize all my talents, help other people along the way and show them a beacon of light.

The purpose of this blog is to motivate the fallen souls who think that being born in a good wealthy family is a privilege. Well, folks, it’s not.

Some learn it the easy way and some learn it the hard way. The more close we are to our basics, the easy it is for us to excel.

One is a prince or princess till the parents are alive as after them or when they themselves are dependent, you are no one’s prince or princess, not even your husband owns you.

You and you alone have to make this difference.“Thinking is the talking of the soul with itself”https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/soul-quotes.

My journey of the soul is an ongoing journey and I have traveled a long way to reach this point now, from what I was 5 years back to the new version of me now.

I have come a long way, learned a lot from like-minded, transformed a lot with mentors, and groomed a lot with the help of sincere and honest friends and readers like you.

Life is not a bed of roses. It never has been.

Struggling, yet determined woman on the run to make a difference in the lives around me and those who look at me in infancy.

I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, a mother, and to many an influencer, a challenge who is changing the way of thinking at large.

I say what I think is right and practice what I believe is right. I don’t do comparisons, am not judgemental. I am the same person for all, whoever approaches.

Being an empath, I can feel what others can’t say because I go through the same feelings every day by connecting to people. We all have a purpose in this world.

My purpose is to ease other people’s life. And make them want to live their life constructively.

I am no counselor, just a human being who understands a multitude of emotions, a good friend, and a listening ear.

As an individual, I would recommend all the fallen angels suffering from meanness find a source you can, use as catharsis, your life will change. It changed mine.https://www.sabahataamir.com/catharsis-2/

As humans, let’s help each other to come out of their shells, have a voice and be productive in meaningful ways.

Think about it.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.