Are We Born Optimistic or Pessimistic?

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ARE YOU BORN TO BE AN OPTIMIST?

 

Hello Folks!

 

Today, I will lay my emphasis on what it takes to be an optimist and see if you are a born optimist. So, without wasting time, let’s start.

 

“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty”.

– Winston Churchill

 

An optimist, when faced with a problem, tends to find the upside to the situation and starts figuring out ways to solve that problem or ways to turn it around.  A pessimist, however, immediately throws up his hands, and yells, “That’s it; it’s all over. I can’t handle this anymore.” 

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Or he will distance himself from the problem, pretending it doesn’t matter.  This is denial, and it never works.

 

According to the world’s foremost expert on optimism, Dr. Martin Seligman, everyone is born optimistic.  And yet, 95% of grownups are pessimists, not optimists. 

 

 

What goes wrong?  Some people see the glass as half empty.  Others see it as half full.  But is it really as simple as that?  Is it possible to be a bit of both?

 

When you think about it, most people tend to be an optimist sometimes and a pessimist other times.  Ironically, a lot of times things turn out according to how we feel about the situation.  If a person feels like something will go well or feels optimistic about it, it usually seems to go well.

 

The same is true of the reverse.  When someone feels like something will go badly, it tends to do just that.

 

An indication that you are dealing with a pessimist is in a simple phrase they will use in stressful situations – “I can’t”.  The pessimist is helpless, powerless and it shows in his response. 

 

The optimist responds with – “I won’t”.  The optimist is making a conscious choice, not just reacting.

 

An optimist prefers to think more positively.  They focus on what they really want, not what might happen to them.

 

Think about the following statements:

 

  • Optimists achieve their goals because they never give up
  • Optimists attract Success naturally
  • Optimists are happier, healthier, and more energetic than pessimists
  • Optimists are easier to be around, inspiring people around to be positive
  • Optimists live longer and suffer from fewer and less severe diseases
  • Besides the above, optimists lead higher  quality  of  life.

 

These are all probably true just by the fact that optimists’ positive thinking makes challenging situations “not that bad” after all.

 

Now true optimism is not sitting back, thinking positive thoughts, and hoping everything will turn out all right.  It’s how you see the world, positively rather than negatively. 

 

You face each situation, each problem, and each occasion with a positive attitude; and you always look forward to the “benefits” you will derive from it. You have a choice.  “Change your thoughts and change your world,” said Norman Vincent Peale.

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What it comes down to is that your attitude is a conscious choice. 

 

If you choose pessimism, you’re choosing to see the downside of every situation, judge people unfairly, and live unhappily the rest of your life.  What an oppressive existence!

 

On the other hand, if you choose optimism, you’re empowering yourself to see the positive side of each challenge, seeing the good in people, helping them to see the good in life too. 

 

Taking action to further improve your own life, and living happily with friends and family who care about you. 

 

Attracting all good to yourself. Choosing to be more optimistic does not mean you won’t encounter difficult times, trauma, loss, and many challenges.  What it does mean is that you will have more power on your side to help you through those tough times. 

 

You’ll bounce back faster and make better choices, rather than letting life just wash over you.  You’ll learn to be proactive, instead of reactive.

 

If you’re not naturally optimistic, don’t worry.  You can learn how to use your thoughts to change your attitude and emotions.  It won’t be easy.  Some days will be very challenging, but you can do it. 

 

Improving your optimism rates is one of the most important actions you can take to improve your life.  It doesn’t come automatically, though.  It takes effort. It takes deliberate, conscious awareness of your thoughts and feelings.  And then acting on that awareness.

 

Each time you think a of negative thought, stop right there and turn it around to find the positive aspect of the situation.

 

Do this each time and build on it? It will become a habit to be positive and upbeat about your life.

 

Here’s one starting point:

 

Practice your ‘positive thinking’ and your ‘positive feeling’.  Give yourself permission to think new thoughts and feel new feelings.

 

You can be as optimistic as you want that you will attract wealth, for that new car or new house.  The productive action helps to push things to that end, and you will get there. 

 

So I would say to you: Be Optimistic!  Expect the best out of life!  Just Think and Act Optimistically.

 

Until next time, stay happy and healthy.

 

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JOURNEY OF THE SOUL;UPCLOSE AND PERSONAL

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JOURNEY OF THE SOUL;

UPCLOSE AND PERSONAL

Hello Folks!

Today, I will share with you the life story of a woman who went through many struggles in her life to be the person that she now is and from whose blogs, you take great inspiration.

It’s a journey of the soul. So let the curtains unveil.

Born in a family of four siblings, always treated lesser, based on skin tone and intelligence, a forceps delivery, as I was told was the reason for my being the way I am. I weaved a castle of imagination around me.

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I lived in that imaginary world where I was a hero and made an impact on society.

I had to struggle to fit in with my surroundings and the school at large. Low in confidence and always being bullied by the better, posh, and popular lot.

Still determined to prove myself one day.

I was still my father’s favorite. He loved me despite my looks and intelligence and I loved him selflessly.

As I grew older and took interest in subjects of my liking, I began to excel in my studies and finding like-minded people like me who saw my capabilities and not my flaws.

JOURNEY OF THE SOUL

All my childhood, I suffered from comparisons and not being good enough but my innate nature couldn’t be changed that is spreading happiness around and helping ones like me, I could in my own way.

Even at this time, at the age of 43, people who I call family, say mean things to me. My family (blood bindings) whom I have always put first then my own family (husband and children).

Have tried to keep them happy, still off and on, have been blamed for the embezzlement of money, and other mean things, just because I take care of my old father.

Most of the time, I listen to them just thinking, maybe I am living in my fathers’ house with my family for my father gives everyone the right to treat me that way.

My children often get emotional and angry saying that why don’t you tell them what you tell us? Why can’t they just leave you alone? Next time so and so khala (aunt)does this, we will tell them.

And I always tell them that it is bad manners and Allah is looking and He will take care of them.

They too suffer because they see their mother suffering at the hands of her loved ones. Though children, they want to say things to them but then think about how, I will feel, stop and take their distances.

I can’t erase the harsh talk out of their minds and let them think all is good. They have to face the bitter reality of life, only to be stronger in the future.

Off and on there have been times where I have desperately felt the need of being independent and telling everyone that I am not dependent on them or their mercy.

Many times in my life, I have fallen and got back again on my foot, thinking about what kind of life I want for my children.

I can sense the dejection going into my children. They were not brought into this world to go through the demise, I am going through.

I want them to have a smooth life and am willing to make/making the necessary sacrifices for their good future.

We have just one life and we have to utilize it to the best of our capabilities. I want to utilize all my talents, help other people along the way and show them a beacon of light.

The purpose of this blog is to motivate the fallen souls who think that being born in a good wealthy family is a privilege. Well, folks, it’s not.

Some learn it the easy way and some learn it the hard way. The more close we are to our basics, the easy it is for us to excel.

One is a prince or princess till the parents are alive as after them or when they themselves are dependent, you are no one’s prince or princess, not even your husband owns you.

You and you alone have to make this difference.“Thinking is the talking of the soul with itself”https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/soul-quotes.

My journey of the soul is an ongoing journey and I have traveled a long way to reach this point now, from what I was 5 years back to the new version of me now.

I have come a long way, learned a lot from like-minded, transformed a lot with mentors, and groomed a lot with the help of sincere and honest friends and readers like you.

Life is not a bed of roses. It never has been.

Struggling, yet determined woman on the run to make a difference in the lives around me and those who look at me in infancy.

I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, a mother, and to many an influencer, a challenge who is changing the way of thinking at large.

I say what I think is right and practice what I believe is right. I don’t do comparisons, am not judgemental. I am the same person for all, whoever approaches.

Being an empath, I can feel what others can’t say because I go through the same feelings every day by connecting to people. We all have a purpose in this world.

My purpose is to ease other people’s life. And make them want to live their life constructively.

I am no counselor, just a human being who understands a multitude of emotions, a good friend, and a listening ear.

As an individual, I would recommend all the fallen angels suffering from meanness find a source you can, use as catharsis, your life will change. It changed mine.https://www.sabahataamir.com/catharsis-2/

As humans, let’s help each other to come out of their shells, have a voice and be productive in meaningful ways.

Think about it.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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THE POWER OF PRACTISING GRATITUDE

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THE POWER OF PRACTISING GRATITUDE

Hello Folks!

Today, I  will talk about Gratitude and how we can practise it in our lives. So, let’s start.

First of all, we need to know, what is Gratitude? It is a feeling of thankfulness towards the world in general and also towards specific individuals.

One who has gratitude does not seek more.

Secondly, Gratitude can be practised by journaling about it. Writing about anything and everything especially gratitude has a multitude of benefits. So do practise this art whenever you can.

Thirdly, you can practise gratitude by start observing the little things happening around you. There are small gestures that might make someone’s day.

All that is required is your acknowledgement of it.

Fourthly, appreciating people in your life too helps you in practising gratitude. This practice greatly works for couples as both need to complement one another for a good life.

Fifthly, if you want to practise gratitude, then you have to be thankful to the people who enlighten your day with their positivity and messages.

Sixth, Gratitude can be practised through practising on the positive aspect of one’s life. Everyone’s life is a blend of many things but the practice of Gratitude can raise oneself from many shackles.

And lastly, one can practise Gratitude through prayers. All of us have our own way to show Gratitude and practise it.

With the Holy month of Ramzan/Fast around the corner, as Muslims, we need to practise Gratitude more to have a happy life. Think about it.

In the end, I would like to express my gratitude to all my readers who always have something positive to add to my blogs and my work. I would also like to thank the people who make this site work smoothly.

Until next time stay safe and Healthy.

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