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WHEN WILL I BREATHE AGAIN? THE BLAME GAME

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WHEN WILL I BREATHE AGAIN?

THE BLAME GAME

Hello Folks!

Long time since my last post. I have missed you all tremendously. Today, I aim at bringing to your real-life experiences, the entity named women/girl/daughter/sister/wife, etc., faces at large.

A thorough violation of Human Rights. https://www.hrw.org/world-report/2021/country-chapters/pakistan# So let’s start.

With the backdrop of incidents going on in my part of the world, a question that keeps occurring in my mind and others ‘ too, is when will the time, in reality, come when I too will breathe again.

The events that have been taking place for the past many weeks are so traumatizing for the concerned that they have made our everyday lives a living hell.

And you know what the most pinching thing is that the authorities know who is at fault yet they do a lip service settling it under the carpet?

My question for the literate and illiterate alike is that when will the time come when the woman is not the target and the blame game will end?

Till which time will the degeneration of values come to an end. https://www.sabahataamir.com/degenerating-values-and-the-youth/

And the so-called Human Rights will be enforced in real? Where are we heading as a nation?

Frankly, nowhere.Towards, doom. That is the place where we are going.

Unless and until the factors that are giving heed to the blame game comes to an end, we as women, can’t breathe in this polluted society.

With the ever-growing series of events, many highs positioned, and career-oriented women are sitting in their homes.

Either they are relying on passive income or facing the daily blame game for not being good enough to run a home or bring up well-mannered children.

Where is it written that bringing up children is only the responsibility of a woman? In our part of the world, the rules only apply to the female Gender who are blamed for everything especially using her brain.

As a man, you should actually be thankful, there is someone who has a brain in the mind that thinks and not a penis that works for one’s pleasure only.

This is our society at large. Here only 10% would be the ones who really have a brain instead of a thinking penis.

The rest is the cult, only following their penis’, violating the respect and self of a woman, and being defended and set free at the end of the day.

As a woman, I fail to breathe at the hands of this male chauvinist society where a minor girl wearing an abaya is raped and it is the fault of the girl because her clothes were inviting.

In an Islamic country, how can a fully covered body be entertaining and inviting to be raped?

Nonetheless, our national dress is the shalwar kameez, which is mostly a fully covered dress. How can such a dress invite the oppressors to harass a woman? It is simply madness to this blame game.

Being an influencer, or activist of an ambassador or officer or a prime Minister, etc., does not entitle a male entity to go beyond all moral standards and display an act of animosity where the only thing working is their penis’.

The need of the time is a changed mindset and the end to the blame game. How can one expect the youth of today to be leaders of the future?

The time demand the male gender to be raised as a responsible citizen https://www.sabahataamir.com/tips-on-grooming-boys-sons-part-i/ and not as a burden on the society.

If society as a whole takes the responsibility of keeping an eye on the wrong and reporting it on time instead of watching and being a spectator to the ongoing crime, only then can women/girls, at large be able to breathe again.

As a mother, a wife, an activist, an educationist, I see the fear penetrating everywhere especially within girls as to whether going out of their house walls can be their last day?

Did we bear, our girls for this day to see the cruel, animous and faceless, face of this society?

Or did we demand a separate home where we can live in a land which we can call our own and practice the charter of human rights?

If this is going to be the cost of demanding our birthright then give us the necessary tools too, to keep ourselves and our kind safe too.

And if the authorities can’t do that then give your places to those who can in reality serve their duty or wait for Revolutions to take place. As there is a limit to the blame game. Think about it before it is too late.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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DEGENERATING VALUES AND THE YOUTH

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DEGENERATING VALUES AND

THE YOUTH

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Over the years, I have viewed a tremendous shift regarding the moral degeneration of society and how it is impacting the youth and the aged alike at large. Something, I have been wanting to discuss for a long time. Today, I will unveil some of the stimulating factors in this regard. So, let’s start.

IDEALS ABOUT LIFE

The foremost stimulating factor responsible for the degeneration of society is the unrealistic ideals about life. There is no single individual in this world who has an ideal life. Everyone has to go through certain struggles to get where he/she might be. There will always be some deficiency in one’s life one way or the other.

The youth and aged alike fail to understand this fact of life and are quick in making hasty decisions leading to a degeneration of society.

LUST TO GET WEALTHY

Another stimulating factor leading to the degeneration of society is the lust to get wealthy quickly. This is another stimulating factor that has affected the youth greatly. They think by marrying an elderly rich woman or vice versa will solve their problem of getting rich quickly.

However, in reality, that is not the case scenario. Not everyone is interested in getting married or looking for affairs or being hooked up with men or women just for pleasure or being married at all. There is so much more to do in life rather than being on the outlook for this. Dramas are Dramas. They don’t add value to real lives. It is not rocket science to understand this.

BLOOD BONDS/RELATIONSHIPS

The lack of blood bonding/ relationships between parents and children and between the siblings now is another stimulating factor leading to a degeneration of society. Parents have a very important role to play in this scenario.No, one said bringing up children was easy. However, as a parent, you cannot put your responsibility on a caregiver or attendant to do your job. You need to be there for your children.

This is what they will learn for the future when they grow up and then you have to be prepared for what comes your way. Earning just money is not everything.

NO/LOOSE PARENTAL HOLD

There was a time when the raising of a brow was sufficient and the children knew their place but now the changing times are making parents fearful of their own children due to the degenerating values that they are picking up.

It is a scary situation that will lead to further degradation of society and lives at large.

USE OF DRUGS

Yet, another stimulating factor is the use of drugs, very common among the youth. By intaking such drugs, the person is always on high, thinking one might achieve the unbelievable. So many lives have gone to dogs due to the use of such drugs, yet there is no check or control. All this is adding to the further degeneration of society.

MEDIA, AS A WEAPON

With the ever-going entertainment and freedom to access, the use of media has turned out to be a weapon in the hands of the youth at large and it is greatly adding to the degeneration of moral values. The poor lot called youth simply fails to see the repercussions of all this at hand and falls prey to this fancy tool.

ONLY ME

The focus of only me to has contributed a lot to the degeneration of society. When every individual focus will be on self and not whole, the results will be very alarming. This rat race of getting all has affected the self of the individual to a great extent.

In today’s world, everyone is thinking about oneself without stopping for a moment and thinking about others. If people at the large start thinking as we, a great many problems can resolve and the youth be saved. It’s never too late to change only if one realizes the cost at the end.

VENT:

The inability to vent one feeling, the right way is adding to the moral degenerating of society and greatly affecting the youth. Mostly, the youth thinks talking and acting dirty would help them achieve what they want in life. Sorry, to break the ice, but such acts and talks only lead to more degeneration.

The vent to feelings and emotions needs a proper platform and medium. Online chats and bombardment of unwanted feelings will do no good. Momentarily, you will feel nice but at the end of the day, you will be the same.

THE ROOT

Addressing the root is the need for time. If you want to nip the evil in the bud, you need to address the root cause of degenerating values in society. The youth of the time needs a lot of mentoring and guidance in the right direction to understand the repercussion of their actions on either the individual or the society at large.

Life is not very complex if you understand the meaning of it and can interpret it in the light of wisdom and religion. You will always have a path of good values and bad values. It is up to you how and what you choose. Think about it before it is too late.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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SUCCESSFUL STRATEGIES TO WIN PARENTS

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SUCCESSFUL STRATEGIES TO WIN PARENTS

Hello Folks!

As an individual, Educational institution, and even as a parent, you must have faced this; how to talk with parents when it concerns the progress of a child. In Pakistan, very few know these successful strategies that concern these basic areas.

So today, I will discuss with you a few successful strategies that will give you food for thought to incorporate in your systems and capacity building programmes for the teachers. So let’s start.

The first successful strategy to win parents is to have Clarity. As an institution, or even as an individual, one needs to know exactly what they are going to say to the parents and mean it and ensure it whether they have been understood clearly.

As most of the time parents are communicated things in a vague manner which leaves many questions unanswered and the concerned teachers don’t ensure whether they have been successful in delivering their message across the board.

There is no need to feel shy if you have to repeat yourself even for a trillion times.No one will be offended.

The second successful strategy would be to have a professional attitude. Be friendly yet a professional. As a teacher or institution or even a parent do not discuss other people’s negativity or apply it on the child concerned.

In Pakistan, most schools and their staff fail to understand that comparisons and negativity lead nowhere. Its an institution we are talking about.

To cater to these challenges proper training need to be imparted along with developing and cultivating a proper mindset.

The third successful strategy to win parents would be a Positive Attitude. Such an attitude needs to be seen in practice too.

When one can help parents in positively parenting their child without patronizing their capabilities for their child’s upbringing, then the positive attitude is seen at its best.

Also, this positivity is seen when you as an institution, an individual and a parent can add to the learning capability of a child. This is why institutions were made. Are we practising this stuff in our institutions?

The fourth successful strategy to win parents would be to have Backups. By backup, I mean that you need to support what you are saying in terms of sample work or some kind of documentation.

If you have worked on a similar situation with some other child, you can always document that and show it to the parents in your scheduled meetings.

In Pakistan people in institutions go by words from the mouth. That is all the authenticity, you will receive here. To win the parents trust, you need to bring in the documentation to support yourself.

The fifth strategy to win parents is the need to be Flexible. There is always room for improvement provided you are open to suggestions. Being in charge of the situation does not mean you are all in all.

There would be times when the situation requires improvising new strategies and coming up with an alternative plan of action.

There are not many schools in Pakistan who are up for these mind-changing flexibilities. Their word is against the suffering parents and their children. At the end of the day. what are they producing in the form of lots? This, I will answer at the end.

The sixth successful strategy to have winning parents is to Include children wherever possible. Making children part of a discussion always help in the long run. It gives children the confidence that they too matter.

A discussion only concerning the parents and the institution is rather a dead discussion.

The child needs to know what’s going on regarding him or her. It makes them understand their responsibility and what is required of them. Children young(10-onwards) and mature should always be made a part of such discussions.

And Lastly, every teacher should know the course they are teaching and explain it in a layman’s term to the parents. In Pakistan, mostly teacher’s are not clear themselves about the syllabus.

How can you expect them to explain it to the parents? There should be sessions regarding syllabus and explained well to the parents so that parents are at par with the teachers and school and likewise.

These are some of the successful strategies that can help any institution win parents. As parents, we are all trying to work towards a common goal which is the growth of a learner/child.

But the strategies being used at present in the educational institutions are producing cattle and slaves with no mind of their own. A mind to only receive orders and not think. For those who think are treated no less than an outcast or even as misfits.

But let me remind you, it is the misfits who are the cause of change in a rotten society. They are the real agents of change and are finally addressed as heroes or heroines when they achieve their true worth and show to the world what they are capable of.

It is not a lot to think about. Still think about it if you want to have a win-win situation.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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THE BLAME GAME

Hello Folks!

Long time since my last post. I have missed you all tremendously. Today, I aim at bringing to your real-life experiences, the entity named women/girl/daughter/sister/wife, etc., faces at large.

A thorough violation of Human Rights. https://www.hrw.org/world-report/2021/country-chapters/pakistan# So let’s start.

With the backdrop of incidents going on in my part of the world, a question that keeps occurring in my mind and others ‘ too, is when will the time, in reality, come when I too will breathe again.

The events that have been taking place for the past many weeks are so traumatizing for the concerned that they have made our everyday lives a living hell.

And you know what the most pinching thing is that the authorities know who is at fault yet they do a lip service settling it under the carpet?

My question for the literate and illiterate alike is that when will the time come when the woman is not the target and the blame game will end?

Till which time will the degeneration of values come to an end. https://www.sabahataamir.com/degenerating-values-and-the-youth/

And the so-called Human Rights will be enforced in real? Where are we heading as a nation?

Frankly, nowhere.Towards, doom. That is the place where we are going.

Unless and until the factors that are giving heed to the blame game comes to an end, we as women, can’t breathe in this polluted society.

With the ever-growing series of events, many highs positioned, and career-oriented women are sitting in their homes.

Either they are relying on passive income or facing the daily blame game for not being good enough to run a home or bring up well-mannered children.

Where is it written that bringing up children is only the responsibility of a woman? In our part of the world, the rules only apply to the female Gender who are blamed for everything especially using her brain.

As a man, you should actually be thankful, there is someone who has a brain in the mind that thinks and not a penis that works for one’s pleasure only.

This is our society at large. Here only 10% would be the ones who really have a brain instead of a thinking penis.

The rest is the cult, only following their penis’, violating the respect and self of a woman, and being defended and set free at the end of the day.

As a woman, I fail to breathe at the hands of this male chauvinist society where a minor girl wearing an abaya is raped and it is the fault of the girl because her clothes were inviting.

In an Islamic country, how can a fully covered body be entertaining and inviting to be raped?

Nonetheless, our national dress is the shalwar kameez, which is mostly a fully covered dress. How can such a dress invite the oppressors to harass a woman? It is simply madness to this blame game.

Being an influencer, or activist of an ambassador or officer or a prime Minister, etc., does not entitle a male entity to go beyond all moral standards and display an act of animosity where the only thing working is their penis’.

The need of the time is a changed mindset and the end to the blame game. How can one expect the youth of today to be leaders of the future?

The time demand the male gender to be raised as a responsible citizen https://www.sabahataamir.com/tips-on-grooming-boys-sons-part-i/ and not as a burden on the society.

If society as a whole takes the responsibility of keeping an eye on the wrong and reporting it on time instead of watching and being a spectator to the ongoing crime, only then can women/girls, at large be able to breathe again.

As a mother, a wife, an activist, an educationist, I see the fear penetrating everywhere especially within girls as to whether going out of their house walls can be their last day?

Did we bear, our girls for this day to see the cruel, animous and faceless, face of this society?

Or did we demand a separate home where we can live in a land which we can call our own and practice the charter of human rights?

If this is going to be the cost of demanding our birthright then give us the necessary tools too, to keep ourselves and our kind safe too.

And if the authorities can’t do that then give your places to those who can in reality serve their duty or wait for Revolutions to take place. As there is a limit to the blame game. Think about it before it is too late.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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DEGENERATING VALUES AND

THE YOUTH

Hello Folks!

IDEALS ABOUT LIFE

The youth and aged alike fail to understand this fact of life and are quick in making hasty decisions leading to a degeneration of society.

LUST TO GET WEALTHY

Another stimulating factor leading to the degeneration of society is the lust to get wealthy quickly. This is another stimulating factor that has affected the youth greatly. They think by marrying an elderly rich woman or vice versa will solve their problem of getting rich quickly.

BLOOD BONDS/RELATIONSHIPS

This is what they will learn for the future when they grow up and then you have to be prepared for what comes your way. Earning just money is not everything.

NO/LOOSE PARENTAL HOLD

There was a time when the raising of a brow was sufficient and the children knew their place but now the changing times are making parents fearful of their own children due to the degenerating values that they are picking up.

It is a scary situation that will lead to further degradation of society and lives at large.

USE OF DRUGS

MEDIA, AS A WEAPON

ONLY ME

The focus of only me to has contributed a lot to the degeneration of society. When every individual focus will be on self and not whole, the results will be very alarming. This rat race of getting all has affected the self of the individual to a great extent.

In today’s world, everyone is thinking about oneself without stopping for a moment and thinking about others. If people at the large start thinking as we, a great many problems can resolve and the youth be saved. It’s never too late to change only if one realizes the cost at the end.

VENT:

The vent to feelings and emotions needs a proper platform and medium. Online chats and bombardment of unwanted feelings will do no good. Momentarily, you will feel nice but at the end of the day, you will be the same.

THE ROOT

Life is not very complex if you understand the meaning of it and can interpret it in the light of wisdom and religion. You will always have a path of good values and bad values. It is up to you how and what you choose. Think about it before it is too late.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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SUCCESSFUL STRATEGIES TO WIN PARENTS

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