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UNVEILING POLYGAMY

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UNVEILING POLYGAMY

Hello Folks!

It’s been a while since I addressed an issue like this. Today, I will talk about Unveiling Polygamy, its practice in various Muslim cultures, and the true essence behind the concept of Polygamy. So let’s start.

The Quran not readily but reluctantly accepts Polygamy as the last resort and only in conditions of great social hardship and for humanitarian purposes.

According to the injunctions of the Holy Quran, Polygamy is permissible if justice and equity can be observed.

The equality in the treatment demanded in the Holy Quran is humanly attainable if all conditions are observed in true sense.

Thus, if a person can deal with his wives justly and give each of his wives equal share in food, clothing, material comforts, and consortium; he is free to have as many wives as up to the ceiling of four.

In many Muslim cultures, there is a growing debate towards restricting polygamy.

Here, I will talk about some Muslim countries where various laws are practiced regarding Polygamy and imposes restrictions/conditions on it.

Firstly, in Pakistan and Bangladesh, the husband can only contract a second marriage with the permission of an Arbitration council if the first wife does not permit remarrying.

The wife is entitled to the judicial dissolution of her marriage if the husband fails to treat the co-wives equally by the injunctions of Islam/Quran.

In addition to this, the husband can only take an additional wife if he can satisfy the Arbitration Council with a valid reason for the marriage.

Secondly, in Morroco, the second marriage during the subsistence of the first marriage depends on the financial position of the husband intending to have another wife.

Thirdly, in Iran, the wife has the right to obtain a divorce if the husband marries without her permission or does not treat the co-wives equitably in the court’s assessment.

The practice regarding Polygamy in Malaysia requires the judicial permission contingent upon application to the court and a hearing with the existing wife or wives.

The court requires proof of necessity. Such as sterility of first wife, a willful avoidance of a restitution order, proof of financial capacity, a guarantee of equitable treatment of co-wives.

And proof that the proposed marriage will not lower the standard of life of the existing wife or wives or dependents.

Similarly, in Indonesia, too polygamous marriage depends on the permission from the court, consent of the existing wife by fulfilling conditions by the law and satisfying the court of such marriage.

Fourthly, the Jordan Law of Family Rights 1951, allows the wife to stipulate in the marriage contract that the husband shall not take another wife during the continuance of their marital union.

It also entitles the wife to sue for divorce if the husband does not honor the stipulation.

Fifthly, in Egypt too, the law No. 100/1985, follows the same trend by giving the right to her whose husband has married again.

The wife has the right to apply for a divorce if she suffers a moral injury or material injury as a result of her husband’s second marriage.

Even if there is no stipulation in the marriage contract that he would not marry during the subsistence of her marriage with him.

Similarly, if the second wife comes to know of her husband’s first marriage can also apply for divorce.

Sixth, the Syrian Law of Personal Status 1953, provides that the request for permission to remarry must be presented in the court.

And the court will refuse to a man already married, the permission to remarry a second wife if he cannot support the two wives.

Lastly, in Tunisia, Turkey, Albania, Druze a Nazari Sects, Polygamy is prohibited.

In the end, I would like to say that Polygamy was introduced in the Prophets (P.B.U.H) time to protect the orphans and women who were their caretakers/guardians and address their issues. As stated in Surah 4, An-Nisa’ 3

“And if you have reason to fear that you might not act equitably towards orphans, then marry from among (other) women such as are lawful to you — (even) two, or three, or four but if you a reason to fear that you might not be able to treat them with equal fairness, then (only) one — or (from among) those whom you rightfully possess. This will make it more likely that you will not deviate from the right course.”

If these verses are interpreted in the correct sense, then would the concept of Polygamy be understood in its context. And thus, justice would be served.

Keeping today’s present-day in mind, Polygamy is being used to satisfy one’s lustful desires and has lost its meaning of Fairness and Equality.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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SOLUTIONS TO CHILDREN’S PROBLEM IN SCHOOLS- PART-II

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SOLUTIONS TO CHILDREN’S PROBLEM

IN SCHOOLS

(PART -II)

Hello Folks!

Last week, I discussed the problems children face in schools. This week, I aim at discussing some of the solutions to the problem that children are facing in most school systems. So let’s start.

The first solution to children’s problems in school is the need to teach them the difference between fantasy and reality about schools. As said, “all that glitters is not gold”. And so is the scenario with every school system that exists.

Programs and segments on TV, show the fantasy and dreamlike world where children are about to enter whereas, in reality, there is no such thing of the kind. Their small dreams yet to take reality are crushed when they see the difference between fantasy and the real world.

Secondly, the problem of bullying needs to be tackled in full letter and spirit. Its time to show that actions have consequences. And no one can escape, no matter what the background is.

Thirdly, Favouritism needs to come to an end. If the school wants to reward a teacher for his/her services, there are better ways to do it. It does not have to be the child of that teacher. Although exceptions are always there and that’s why merit systems are made.

Fourthly, the overall system of Groupings in the school should be discouraged. After all, schools are for everyone and there should be no difference based on status among fellow pupils. All school bearers should be appointed based on certain criteria rather than popularity only.

Fifthly, school Canteens need to provide healthy food that is home-cooked if they want to be spared of future ratios of obesity. Plus by encouraging home-cooked food in the school will be a step forward to promote small businesses.

As many of the school workers maybe having it as a sideline to cater for their household needs. However, quality under no circumstance should be compromised.

Sixthly, the mixing of young and old children especially boys should be strictly Monitored. For this purpose, separate teachers are needed to assign this task to. And this trend of one teacher for all tasks should be diminished.

After all, teachers too are human and cannot carry on tasks like a robot.

Seventh, all schools small and big have many areas where they are collecting Funds in the name of miscellaneous. These funds need to be used diligently especially when it comes to the well being of the students.

For the rising change in behaviors of the students, be it related to anger or stress or psychological or mood outbursts; there is a dire need for the appointment of Area-Specific Counselors in the school. One for all is not the solution to every problem.

Children might be needing consultation in studies or sports or other awareness.

Eighthly, where there is a need for a Parent to Children interaction, same is the requirement and need of a Parent to Teacher interaction. This problem needs to be addressed duly by both parties to prevent future events that might be taking place in children’s life.

And lastly, Schools need to Enroll themselves with certain Institutions that work on the overall personality of a child. These programs can be related to anger management or psyche or overall well being. And the counselor has to recommend such programs for the child in consultation with the school and parents.

As for other children, there should be a compulsion to work for some time, as a paid job either with their school or some charity to introduce the habit of hard work right from the early years.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

Happy Reading!

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UNVEILING POLYGAMY

Hello Folks!

It’s been a while since I addressed an issue like this. Today, I will talk about Unveiling Polygamy, its practice in various Muslim cultures, and the true essence behind the concept of Polygamy. So let’s start.

The Quran not readily but reluctantly accepts Polygamy as the last resort and only in conditions of great social hardship and for humanitarian purposes.

According to the injunctions of the Holy Quran, Polygamy is permissible if justice and equity can be observed.

The equality in the treatment demanded in the Holy Quran is humanly attainable if all conditions are observed in true sense.

Thus, if a person can deal with his wives justly and give each of his wives equal share in food, clothing, material comforts, and consortium; he is free to have as many wives as up to the ceiling of four.

In many Muslim cultures, there is a growing debate towards restricting polygamy.

Here, I will talk about some Muslim countries where various laws are practiced regarding Polygamy and imposes restrictions/conditions on it.

Firstly, in Pakistan and Bangladesh, the husband can only contract a second marriage with the permission of an Arbitration council if the first wife does not permit remarrying.

The wife is entitled to the judicial dissolution of her marriage if the husband fails to treat the co-wives equally by the injunctions of Islam/Quran.

In addition to this, the husband can only take an additional wife if he can satisfy the Arbitration Council with a valid reason for the marriage.

Secondly, in Morroco, the second marriage during the subsistence of the first marriage depends on the financial position of the husband intending to have another wife.

Thirdly, in Iran, the wife has the right to obtain a divorce if the husband marries without her permission or does not treat the co-wives equitably in the court’s assessment.

The practice regarding Polygamy in Malaysia requires the judicial permission contingent upon application to the court and a hearing with the existing wife or wives.

The court requires proof of necessity. Such as sterility of first wife, a willful avoidance of a restitution order, proof of financial capacity, a guarantee of equitable treatment of co-wives.

And proof that the proposed marriage will not lower the standard of life of the existing wife or wives or dependents.

Similarly, in Indonesia, too polygamous marriage depends on the permission from the court, consent of the existing wife by fulfilling conditions by the law and satisfying the court of such marriage.

Fourthly, the Jordan Law of Family Rights 1951, allows the wife to stipulate in the marriage contract that the husband shall not take another wife during the continuance of their marital union.

It also entitles the wife to sue for divorce if the husband does not honor the stipulation.

Fifthly, in Egypt too, the law No. 100/1985, follows the same trend by giving the right to her whose husband has married again.

The wife has the right to apply for a divorce if she suffers a moral injury or material injury as a result of her husband’s second marriage.

Even if there is no stipulation in the marriage contract that he would not marry during the subsistence of her marriage with him.

Similarly, if the second wife comes to know of her husband’s first marriage can also apply for divorce.

Sixth, the Syrian Law of Personal Status 1953, provides that the request for permission to remarry must be presented in the court.

And the court will refuse to a man already married, the permission to remarry a second wife if he cannot support the two wives.

Lastly, in Tunisia, Turkey, Albania, Druze a Nazari Sects, Polygamy is prohibited.

In the end, I would like to say that Polygamy was introduced in the Prophets (P.B.U.H) time to protect the orphans and women who were their caretakers/guardians and address their issues. As stated in Surah 4, An-Nisa’ 3

If these verses are interpreted in the correct sense, then would the concept of Polygamy be understood in its context. And thus, justice would be served.

Keeping today’s present-day in mind, Polygamy is being used to satisfy one’s lustful desires and has lost its meaning of Fairness and Equality.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

Happy Reading!

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SOLUTIONS TO CHILDREN’S PROBLEM

IN SCHOOLS

(PART -II)

Hello Folks!

Last week, I discussed the problems children face in schools. This week, I aim at discussing some of the solutions to the problem that children are facing in most school systems. So let’s start.

The first solution to children’s problems in school is the need to teach them the difference between fantasy and reality about schools. As said, “all that glitters is not gold”. And so is the scenario with every school system that exists.

Programs and segments on TV, show the fantasy and dreamlike world where children are about to enter whereas, in reality, there is no such thing of the kind. Their small dreams yet to take reality are crushed when they see the difference between fantasy and the real world.

Secondly, the problem of bullying needs to be tackled in full letter and spirit. Its time to show that actions have consequences. And no one can escape, no matter what the background is.

Thirdly, Favouritism needs to come to an end. If the school wants to reward a teacher for his/her services, there are better ways to do it. It does not have to be the child of that teacher. Although exceptions are always there and that’s why merit systems are made.

Fourthly, the overall system of Groupings in the school should be discouraged. After all, schools are for everyone and there should be no difference based on status among fellow pupils. All school bearers should be appointed based on certain criteria rather than popularity only.

Fifthly, school Canteens need to provide healthy food that is home-cooked if they want to be spared of future ratios of obesity. Plus by encouraging home-cooked food in the school will be a step forward to promote small businesses.

As many of the school workers maybe having it as a sideline to cater for their household needs. However, quality under no circumstance should be compromised.

Sixthly, the mixing of young and old children especially boys should be strictly Monitored. For this purpose, separate teachers are needed to assign this task to. And this trend of one teacher for all tasks should be diminished.

After all, teachers too are human and cannot carry on tasks like a robot.

Seventh, all schools small and big have many areas where they are collecting Funds in the name of miscellaneous. These funds need to be used diligently especially when it comes to the well being of the students.

For the rising change in behaviors of the students, be it related to anger or stress or psychological or mood outbursts; there is a dire need for the appointment of Area-Specific Counselors in the school. One for all is not the solution to every problem.

Children might be needing consultation in studies or sports or other awareness.

Eighthly, where there is a need for a Parent to Children interaction, same is the requirement and need of a Parent to Teacher interaction. This problem needs to be addressed duly by both parties to prevent future events that might be taking place in children’s life.

As for other children, there should be a compulsion to work for some time, as a paid job either with their school or some charity to introduce the habit of hard work right from the early years.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

Happy Reading!

(https://sabahataamir.com/2020/06/26/problems-of-chil…at-school-part-i/)

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