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MEMOIRS OF AN ORPHAN

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MEMOIRS OF AN ORPHAN

Hello Folks!

I often think about orphans regarding what becomes of them when their parent/parents are no more and they are left at the mercy of their relatives.

Today, I will share with you an insight regarding this. So let’s start. It’s not necessary that every orphan has to go through the same problems and pinches. Sometimes, we altogether, have a very different experience.

A few months ago, I met one such person. A youth who is working in a medical organization as a medical attendant for the welfare of senior people.

A brief talk with him told a lot about his childhood experiences and the way society reacts towards orphans. So much to learn at such a tender age.

On inquiring about the traditional attitude of the relatives, both maternal and paternal toward him and the siblings, he had no complaints from the maternal side.

He was clear about one thing regarding maternal relatives which was that they were always at their back from childhood to adulthood. Never, did once he or the siblings felt like separate members of the family.

However, he felt grieved on the attitude of the paternal side who was never there for them when they needed them the most.

The only time, they contacted was, when they wanted the land/property. And the way the paternal relatives manipulated one of the siblings for their own benefit. So much so that it led to guilt and shame and the ultimate result was the death of the sibling.

They got what they wanted. But the siblings still await justice even today.

Sometimes, we don’t know where our actions would take us, and we can be easily fooled by clever people. Only sincere friends and family can save us from falling into these kinds of trap.

But sometimes, even friends and family can’t help us and we fall into an abyss resulting in a permanent loss.

Orphans are the most sensitive beings who look for love, care, and acceptance wherever they go. And if they find such people, they own them throughout their lives.

And if they don’t, they keep on searching for people who accept them. Being a medical attendant in Pakistan is not much of a rewarding career especially if the mindset of the employer is of a boss and not of a human being.

We, as individuals are kinder towards our pets but less sensitive to the needs of a human being who we often take for granted.

As far as orphans are concerned, the relatives know how to manipulate them to their own benefit later to discard them from the mainframe of work. It is heart aching to see such behavior always.

If relatives can be monsters then what to expect from society at large. They too are no less than a nightmare. An orphan, even at a tender age learns and absorbs the brutality/reality of life when he /she has to face them every second of the day.

How will all this shape one’s personality? You my, friends are intelligent to understand and interpret all this. Those of you who are guardians of orphans treat them well with utter responsibility and care.

And those of you who are thinking of becoming a guardian to them, place yourself in their footsteps and then act with love and care as you don’t know when fate can stop smiling at you.

It is small acts of kindness that pay us in the long run. Think about it. Until next time stay safe and healthy.

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UNVEILING POLYGAMY

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UNVEILING POLYGAMY

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It’s been a while since I addressed an issue like this. Today, I will talk about Unveiling Polygamy, its practice in various Muslim cultures, and the true essence behind the concept of Polygamy. So let’s start.

The Quran not readily but reluctantly accepts Polygamy as the last resort and only in conditions of great social hardship and for humanitarian purposes.

According to the injunctions of the Holy Quran, Polygamy is permissible if justice and equity can be observed.

The equality in the treatment demanded in the Holy Quran is humanly attainable if all conditions are observed in true sense.

Thus, if a person can deal with his wives justly and give each of his wives equal share in food, clothing, material comforts, and consortium; he is free to have as many wives as up to the ceiling of four.

In many Muslim cultures, there is a growing debate towards restricting polygamy.

Here, I will talk about some Muslim countries where various laws are practiced regarding Polygamy and imposes restrictions/conditions on it.

Firstly, in Pakistan and Bangladesh, the husband can only contract a second marriage with the permission of an Arbitration council if the first wife does not permit remarrying.

The wife is entitled to the judicial dissolution of her marriage if the husband fails to treat the co-wives equally by the injunctions of Islam/Quran.

In addition to this, the husband can only take an additional wife if he can satisfy the Arbitration Council with a valid reason for the marriage.

Secondly, in Morroco, the second marriage during the subsistence of the first marriage depends on the financial position of the husband intending to have another wife.

Thirdly, in Iran, the wife has the right to obtain a divorce if the husband marries without her permission or does not treat the co-wives equitably in the court’s assessment.

The practice regarding Polygamy in Malaysia requires the judicial permission contingent upon application to the court and a hearing with the existing wife or wives.

The court requires proof of necessity. Such as sterility of first wife, a willful avoidance of a restitution order, proof of financial capacity, a guarantee of equitable treatment of co-wives.

And proof that the proposed marriage will not lower the standard of life of the existing wife or wives or dependents.

Similarly, in Indonesia, too polygamous marriage depends on the permission from the court, consent of the existing wife by fulfilling conditions by the law and satisfying the court of such marriage.

Fourthly, the Jordan Law of Family Rights 1951, allows the wife to stipulate in the marriage contract that the husband shall not take another wife during the continuance of their marital union.

It also entitles the wife to sue for divorce if the husband does not honor the stipulation.

Fifthly, in Egypt too, the law No. 100/1985, follows the same trend by giving the right to her whose husband has married again.

The wife has the right to apply for a divorce if she suffers a moral injury or material injury as a result of her husband’s second marriage.

Even if there is no stipulation in the marriage contract that he would not marry during the subsistence of her marriage with him.

Similarly, if the second wife comes to know of her husband’s first marriage can also apply for divorce.

Sixth, the Syrian Law of Personal Status 1953, provides that the request for permission to remarry must be presented in the court.

And the court will refuse to a man already married, the permission to remarry a second wife if he cannot support the two wives.

Lastly, in Tunisia, Turkey, Albania, Druze a Nazari Sects, Polygamy is prohibited.

In the end, I would like to say that Polygamy was introduced in the Prophets (P.B.U.H) time to protect the orphans and women who were their caretakers/guardians and address their issues. As stated in Surah 4, An-Nisa’ 3

“And if you have reason to fear that you might not act equitably towards orphans, then marry from among (other) women such as are lawful to you — (even) two, or three, or four but if you a reason to fear that you might not be able to treat them with equal fairness, then (only) one — or (from among) those whom you rightfully possess. This will make it more likely that you will not deviate from the right course.”

If these verses are interpreted in the correct sense, then would the concept of Polygamy be understood in its context. And thus, justice would be served.

Keeping today’s present-day in mind, Polygamy is being used to satisfy one’s lustful desires and has lost its meaning of Fairness and Equality.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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MEMOIRS OF AN ORPHAN

Hello Folks!

I often think about orphans regarding what becomes of them when their parent/parents are no more and they are left at the mercy of their relatives.

Today, I will share with you an insight regarding this. So let’s start. It’s not necessary that every orphan has to go through the same problems and pinches. Sometimes, we altogether, have a very different experience.

A few months ago, I met one such person. A youth who is working in a medical organization as a medical attendant for the welfare of senior people.

A brief talk with him told a lot about his childhood experiences and the way society reacts towards orphans. So much to learn at such a tender age.

On inquiring about the traditional attitude of the relatives, both maternal and paternal toward him and the siblings, he had no complaints from the maternal side.

He was clear about one thing regarding maternal relatives which was that they were always at their back from childhood to adulthood. Never, did once he or the siblings felt like separate members of the family.

However, he felt grieved on the attitude of the paternal side who was never there for them when they needed them the most.

The only time, they contacted was, when they wanted the land/property. And the way the paternal relatives manipulated one of the siblings for their own benefit. So much so that it led to guilt and shame and the ultimate result was the death of the sibling.

They got what they wanted. But the siblings still await justice even today.

Sometimes, we don’t know where our actions would take us, and we can be easily fooled by clever people. Only sincere friends and family can save us from falling into these kinds of trap.

But sometimes, even friends and family can’t help us and we fall into an abyss resulting in a permanent loss.

Orphans are the most sensitive beings who look for love, care, and acceptance wherever they go. And if they find such people, they own them throughout their lives.

And if they don’t, they keep on searching for people who accept them. Being a medical attendant in Pakistan is not much of a rewarding career especially if the mindset of the employer is of a boss and not of a human being.

We, as individuals are kinder towards our pets but less sensitive to the needs of a human being who we often take for granted.

As far as orphans are concerned, the relatives know how to manipulate them to their own benefit later to discard them from the mainframe of work. It is heart aching to see such behavior always.

If relatives can be monsters then what to expect from society at large. They too are no less than a nightmare. An orphan, even at a tender age learns and absorbs the brutality/reality of life when he /she has to face them every second of the day.

How will all this shape one’s personality? You my, friends are intelligent to understand and interpret all this. Those of you who are guardians of orphans treat them well with utter responsibility and care.

And those of you who are thinking of becoming a guardian to them, place yourself in their footsteps and then act with love and care as you don’t know when fate can stop smiling at you.

It is small acts of kindness that pay us in the long run. Think about it. Until next time stay safe and healthy.

Happy Reading!

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UNVEILING POLYGAMY

Hello Folks!

It’s been a while since I addressed an issue like this. Today, I will talk about Unveiling Polygamy, its practice in various Muslim cultures, and the true essence behind the concept of Polygamy. So let’s start.

The Quran not readily but reluctantly accepts Polygamy as the last resort and only in conditions of great social hardship and for humanitarian purposes.

According to the injunctions of the Holy Quran, Polygamy is permissible if justice and equity can be observed.

The equality in the treatment demanded in the Holy Quran is humanly attainable if all conditions are observed in true sense.

Thus, if a person can deal with his wives justly and give each of his wives equal share in food, clothing, material comforts, and consortium; he is free to have as many wives as up to the ceiling of four.

In many Muslim cultures, there is a growing debate towards restricting polygamy.

Here, I will talk about some Muslim countries where various laws are practiced regarding Polygamy and imposes restrictions/conditions on it.

Firstly, in Pakistan and Bangladesh, the husband can only contract a second marriage with the permission of an Arbitration council if the first wife does not permit remarrying.

The wife is entitled to the judicial dissolution of her marriage if the husband fails to treat the co-wives equally by the injunctions of Islam/Quran.

In addition to this, the husband can only take an additional wife if he can satisfy the Arbitration Council with a valid reason for the marriage.

Secondly, in Morroco, the second marriage during the subsistence of the first marriage depends on the financial position of the husband intending to have another wife.

Thirdly, in Iran, the wife has the right to obtain a divorce if the husband marries without her permission or does not treat the co-wives equitably in the court’s assessment.

The practice regarding Polygamy in Malaysia requires the judicial permission contingent upon application to the court and a hearing with the existing wife or wives.

The court requires proof of necessity. Such as sterility of first wife, a willful avoidance of a restitution order, proof of financial capacity, a guarantee of equitable treatment of co-wives.

And proof that the proposed marriage will not lower the standard of life of the existing wife or wives or dependents.

Similarly, in Indonesia, too polygamous marriage depends on the permission from the court, consent of the existing wife by fulfilling conditions by the law and satisfying the court of such marriage.

Fourthly, the Jordan Law of Family Rights 1951, allows the wife to stipulate in the marriage contract that the husband shall not take another wife during the continuance of their marital union.

It also entitles the wife to sue for divorce if the husband does not honor the stipulation.

Fifthly, in Egypt too, the law No. 100/1985, follows the same trend by giving the right to her whose husband has married again.

The wife has the right to apply for a divorce if she suffers a moral injury or material injury as a result of her husband’s second marriage.

Even if there is no stipulation in the marriage contract that he would not marry during the subsistence of her marriage with him.

Similarly, if the second wife comes to know of her husband’s first marriage can also apply for divorce.

Sixth, the Syrian Law of Personal Status 1953, provides that the request for permission to remarry must be presented in the court.

And the court will refuse to a man already married, the permission to remarry a second wife if he cannot support the two wives.

Lastly, in Tunisia, Turkey, Albania, Druze a Nazari Sects, Polygamy is prohibited.

In the end, I would like to say that Polygamy was introduced in the Prophets (P.B.U.H) time to protect the orphans and women who were their caretakers/guardians and address their issues. As stated in Surah 4, An-Nisa’ 3

If these verses are interpreted in the correct sense, then would the concept of Polygamy be understood in its context. And thus, justice would be served.

Keeping today’s present-day in mind, Polygamy is being used to satisfy one’s lustful desires and has lost its meaning of Fairness and Equality.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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