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CHALLENGES FACED BY GROWING UP BOYS AND HOW TO TACKLE
THEM HEAD-ON
Hello Folks!
I know how it feels if you are left out from the lot. So, for all growing up boys and teenagers who feel like this, this blog is just for you, your problems/challenges at hand, and how to tackle them head-on. So let’s start.
 The question that is often asked is, “why do boys struggle more than girls?” There are many reasons for this. One of the most prominent reasons is that boys are given fewer opportunities to succeed.
The lack of success can lead to feelings of low self-esteem among boys which can have long-term effects on their future.
CHALLENGES FACED BY GROWING UP BOYS/CHILDREN:
Secondly, the challenges faced by growing up boys largely depend on their family background, socio-economic status, and location.
Factors such as personal biases and stereotypes affect their experiences, which then shape their expectations of the world.
Family and peer pressures too can put a halt on the overall grooming of boys thus complicating things for them.
GENDER BIASES:
Thirdly, the challenges faced by boys are manyfold but can be categorized into two major categories – male disadvantage and gender inequality.
The former focuses on inequalities related to boys’ roles, while the latter focuses on inequalities related to girls’ roles.
We cannot place both genders in isolation when it comes to specific roles. Both face their challenges and need to be addressed duly.
Being more likely to be fatherless, take more dangerous risks, and are less likely to graduate high school compared to their female counterparts.
It appears that there is a critical imbalance between males and females.
COMPARISONS:
Fifthly, Â presently, there is no denying the reality that men are constantly being assaulted in different ways by society.
They are bombarded with harmful stereotypes from a young age and these stereotypes have a powerful impact on their lives. Comparison simply kills the fire inside any individual.
EDUCATIONAL SYSTEMS:
Sixthly, boys are disadvantaged in the educational system too. For example, they are more likely to be suspended or expelled from school than girls, and they are less likely to be taught by qualified teachers.
This unequal treatment manifests itself in boys’ learning outcomes. For many boys, violence is seen as an appropriate response to any wrongdoing; they learn that solving problems with violence is a good thing.
These social norms can result in men becoming perpetrators of sexual violence against women and girls.
DEALING WITH BULLYING:
Seventhly, Bullying is an unfortunate reality for many children and adolescents. For boys, the bullying may manifest in different ways than girls, but it can have just as much of an impact on their mental health.
Bullying is a serious issue and can result in many mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, and even suicide. Males and boys are bullied more than females which can lead to an increased rate of mental health issues.
Masculine qualities like physical strength are favored over feminine qualities like intelligence. Similarly, boys tend to be physically weaker than girls
As a result, boys may feel more pressure to live up to the expectation created by the media.
DEALING WITH BAD COMPANY AND CULTURE:
One of the issues/challenges that boys have to face is a bad company that can consist of boys from various cultures. In the case of Pakistan, boys from Pathan families can have a really bad influence on boys from other cultures.
There are innumerate cases of boys who have been exploited at the hands of Pathan boys. Such influence/impact and company take away the innocence of growing-up boys. All ideals of love and inclusiveness go to waste when one faces such ordeals at a very early age.
Unfortunately, such horrors are sealed behind walls and trunks only taken out when one needs to serve their interests and manifestos
DEALING WITH EMOTIONS:
Eighthly, Males are often expected to be independent which makes it difficult for them to ask for help when they need it.
The challenges faced by boys growing up are different from girls, who are given more leeway to show emotions.
Men are expected to be tough, which can lead to less self-esteem and an increased risk of suicide.
TACKLING DEPRESSION:
Ninthly is depression which has its roots embedded not only in society but also in homes where things keep on adding up and making the lives of boys difficult altogether.
Boys are often ashamed to talk about depression because of the stigma attached to the condition.
Depression can be hard to spot in boys because they use different coping techniques than girls, but it’s there.
FREEDOM TO DO THINGS AT ONE’S WILL:
And lastly, is the freedom which is denied in most households as parents ego is too high to let lose the child and grow naturally. We all learn through mistakes.
We as parents and carers can secure our children but we need to give them space to breathe and grow.
If as enlightened individuals, we will not think about the growing up teens or boys or the soon become adult, then who would. It’s high time to save your generations from going to the doldrums.
In the end, I would like to say that we need to teach our children from an early age not to oppress each other based on gender and instead treat everyone equally and we need to create balance and awareness of emotions in our society so that all can grow harmoniously and confidently with high esteem.
We need to change the way that boys are brought up for them to avoid these challenges, but it is also about changing the attitudes of men. We must teach them that it is okay for them to cry for example.
It is ok to let out feelings of anger, and rage and it is ok to fight with parents when the situation prevails. It is also ok to tell what you feel in the spur of the moment without keeping up appearances.
Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.
It’s been a while since I have been thinking to write on this topic. With the incidents going on in a couple of weeks, I suppose this is the best time to address this issue.
Today, I aim to talk about Frustrations. What might be the causes and what is it doing to people in general. So let’s start.
With the backdrop of COVID-19, most of us are stuck in our homes deliberately. Now many of us have catered for it by involving ourselves in productive activities.
Still, here are a handful of people who are very unproductive during such times. Such as children, adolescents,labour class, unemployed adults, any college, university students etc.,
The whole point of mentioning these here is that they are not utilizing their energies for productivity rather they have engaged themselves in futile activities that are leading to frustration.
Consider a typical family of 4-6 members. Leaving earning members of the family, those at home are either on some gadgets or watching something all day long.
They are the ones who need to be monitored most as parents/guardians/livelihood earners being out of the house have no idea about what is going on at the back of their(people at home) minds.
In order to know, what is going on please friends whether you are parents, couples, colleagues, best buddies, siblings, talk things out with each other before its too late.
There are many manifestations of being frustrated. Like not having someone to talk to regarding how you feel about certain things. Growing up teens and youth need someone to talk to. The best people for the purpose are the ones you are close too.
You cannot randomly just pick up someone on the social platform and start talking to him/her. Everyone has his/her sensitive points. Why bother people with what they know not of.
Also, they might not be comfortable in addressing your questions.Talking to someone you consider a friend is good but even that friend might have limitations regarding the disposition of specific knowledge.
So, dear friends, it is always better to seek professional advice if you are in desperate need. Sometimes taking the easy option out might cost you a great deal of pain before you revert to the right way.
I can advise you and suggest these things because I have learnt these over the years through experience and it is the essence of my life, I want you to have and make good use of it.
After all, I too am human and can err but the best of us is the one who learns from others mistakes rather than making new ones.
For the adults and youth who think and feel as they are stranded in this scenario, don’t lose hope.There is always the best to come. So be grateful for what you have and have gratitude for even the minutest.
And for those who are on the social platform 24/7, please breathe and let others breathe too.Someone trying to address your issues, encourage them rather than being pain in the ass for them.
They are trying to provide you a bright future, a life you can be grateful for, for the years to come. Respect them and consider them your guardian angels.
Don’t throw things at them just because they write openly. They place themselves in your shoes and respond accordingly.
Don’t show your frustrations to them. They are only trying to help you out through this community service of being there. Think about it. Unitl next time, stay Safe and Healthy.
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