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IMPRESSIONS- THINK OUT OF THE BOX;A SINGLE DAY IN THE LIFE OF A WOMAN

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IMPRESSIONS; THINK OUT OF THE BOX

A SINGLE DAY IN THE LIFE OF A WOMAN

People are often bound by impressions they have been viewing since an early stage of life. Such impressions often make me wonder why cannot people, Think out of the Box (https://www.wordhippo.com/what-is/another-word-for/thinking_outside_the_box.html )before making such impressions.

Today, I will walk you through one such impression that prevails in most Pakistani (South Asian) families.

STAY AT HOME WOMEN/WIVES/MOMS SCHEDULE:

This impression is formed by men mostly who think if a woman is a stay-at-home mom/wife, she does not have anything to do except enjoying leisure all day long. Well, it is high time to think out of the box.

Let’s start with a normal day for any woman/housewife. Her daily routine starts with the morning prayers. The timings may vary according to the time zone of the area/ country where one is residing.

MORNING PREPARATIONS:

Anyways, after the morning prayers, she starts preparing lunchboxes and breakfast for everyone in the house. Now, these lunch boxes and breakfast are not simple ones but may vary according to ones liking and tastes.https://www.nigella.com/cookbook-corner

This may take 1 hour in preparation depending on the number of persons living in that particular household.

ACTION TIME:

Then comes the time of waking up everyone in order of the time they have to leave for their work/school. She wakes up the adults who can at least wash their faces on their own.

But as for the children, she has to make sure to get them out of the bed, adjust the water temperature according to the weather, and assist them in every possible way.

No matter what are the ages of children, they always need to be pampered.

Next to this stage comes the changing stage where again on the one side she is assisting the children in getting ready and at the same time assisting the so organized adults in finding their lost things.

Well, finally comes the breakfast stage where everyone begins to eat their breakfast with little or no complain which is very rare in most circumstances.

After the breakfast stage is the leave for school and work stage which is no less than a hassle. Everything takes place in the twinkling of an eye.

The dropping to school too mostly is the responsibility of the woman/wife.

When the drop-off stage is over, the woman goes to a nearby park for a daily morning walk or exercise or as the circumstances be for her. This might take half an hour or so.

After coming back, she quickly takes her breakfast and gets to her daily chores. Hey, are we on the same page? I am sure we are.

THE NEVER-ENDING CHORES:

These chores, I am sure everyone in Pakistani society is well aware of. Well, I am talking about the regular cleaning of the house which requires washing dishes, sweeping, dusting, and mopping and re-arrangements of things as well.

This work can take about 1 to 2 hours of her time depending on the size of the home or how much dirty it might be. A little help from someone can be a blessing if there is one or else, it is her home and, she has to clean it. An out-of-the-box scenario.

Well, if there is some elderly person in the home, she has to attend him/her as well and take care of their needs and medicines, etc.

And she does all this, out of her love for that soul not for people’s reward but the greater reward that she might receive from the Creator. Though some words of gratitude may not kill her.

When the home chores are done, she reverts to her kitchen where she has to start with food preparations according to the liking of everyone at home.

IT’S HERO TIME:

Now, let me enlighten you with the fact that in the kitchen, most women do not have extra hands instead she is multi-tasking to put the meals on the table.

It may involve lengthy processes from cutting onions to peeling off skins of garlic and vegetables etc. No easy way out.Ah!

I am with all of you in this and I am here to bear with you, care and share with you and be your voice in expressing your inner thoughts.

Now, these meals might not always be simpler, to get them right and according to taste, the woman might consult elderly women in families who are believed to be good cooks of their time.

They might be able to guide provided they have a good memory or have a recipe noted down somewhere or else you are on your own.

And if you are creative and have a taste for food you might come up with something better.

Your family will love it for they will think it’s the same recipe…and you will never tell.

Hello! Here comes the off time for kids. You have got to go. No time to stand and stare or even drink a glass of water.

So here you are running on the roads from one school to another to pick up the children from their respective schools.

This picking up may take 1 to 1 and a half hours depending on your location of the home to and from school.

After coming back from school, the woman engages herself in getting them changed and get them on the table for food. During this time, the woman engages and asks them about their day, what made them happy, sad and whatever they want to talk about.

Her day does not come to an end, she has to make sure the children have their due rest or if they want to play, she takes them to the park so that they can enjoy.

SNACK TIME:

After coming back, the children might need some snacks to fill their hungry tummies and the woman has to be very selective in providing them something nutritious yet energy boosting.https://www.sabahataamir.com/a-finger-licking-brownie/

When the eating is over, she has to get on with their homework or any of the school activities or as the case might be. Well, she does it all. Except in areas that are beyond her grasp.

Now, up till this time, it is already 7:00 p.m. She has to start preparing for the food to be served for dinner. It can either be a whole new food or the same food used for lunch.

The family man mostly arrives from his office late to have dinner with the family. It is a lucky day for the family if he comes on time.

The dinner is served. It is either praised or praised with some improvements or eaten without comments.

Now, the wife thinks that her day has come to an end and she can do something of her liking but it is like versa.

She has to iron the clothes for the next day, pack the bags, get the children ready for sleep, read them something, or watch something with them before they are lulled to sleep.

CATHARSIS TIME:

This might take another hour or so. When all this is done, she opens her laptop/book, etc., with the idea of writing down something which gives her inspiration for the next day yet to come.

At this point, she expects some gratitude from anyone in the house.

But here too, she does not get any gratitude yet receives this comment; All day you are on the laptop and do nothing…

then please all men are you, Husbands, Brothers, Fathers, Friends, etc., please stop for a second and Think out of the box.

We are human beings not any cog in the machines.

In the end, I would like to reiterate my point of view that stop taking us for granted and formulating impressions about us.

For once, think out of the box. If we are stay-at-home moms or wives or women; we have deliberately or non deliberately choose this for ourselves.

We want to give a conducive environment to our family and the people around us. We do not earn in monetary terms but we are earning through our deeds and raising productive nations trying to make them thankful and have gratitude towards the ones who make their lives heaven.

We are working tirelessly, and effortlessly without being compensated. Please bear with us and hear us out, address our grievances and we can find a solution together.

At the end of the day, it is the sacrifices of such women that are going to be counted and be thanked for. So bear with us the equal responsibility and share your gratitude towards all stay-at-home moms/wives/women.

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

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WHEN WILL I BREATHE AGAIN? THE BLAME GAME

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WHEN WILL I BREATHE AGAIN?

THE BLAME GAME

Hello Folks!

Long time since my last post. I have missed you all tremendously. Today, I aim at bringing to your real-life experiences, the entity named women/girl/daughter/sister/wife, etc., faces at large.

A thorough violation of Human Rights. https://www.hrw.org/world-report/2021/country-chapters/pakistan# So let’s start.

With the backdrop of incidents going on in my part of the world, a question that keeps occurring in my mind and others ‘ too, is when will the time, in reality, come when I too will breathe again.

The events that have been taking place for the past many weeks are so traumatizing for the concerned that they have made our everyday lives a living hell.

And you know what the most pinching thing is that the authorities know who is at fault yet they do a lip service settling it under the carpet?

My question for the literate and illiterate alike is that when will the time come when the woman is not the target and the blame game will end?

Till which time will the degeneration of values come to an end. https://www.sabahataamir.com/degenerating-values-and-the-youth/

And the so-called Human Rights will be enforced in real? Where are we heading as a nation?

Frankly, nowhere.Towards, doom. That is the place where we are going.

Unless and until the factors that are giving heed to the blame game comes to an end, we as women, can’t breathe in this polluted society.

With the ever-growing series of events, many highs positioned, and career-oriented women are sitting in their homes.

Either they are relying on passive income or facing the daily blame game for not being good enough to run a home or bring up well-mannered children.

Where is it written that bringing up children is only the responsibility of a woman? In our part of the world, the rules only apply to the female Gender who are blamed for everything especially using her brain.

As a man, you should actually be thankful, there is someone who has a brain in the mind that thinks and not a penis that works for one’s pleasure only.

This is our society at large. Here only 10% would be the ones who really have a brain instead of a thinking penis.

The rest is the cult, only following their penis’, violating the respect and self of a woman, and being defended and set free at the end of the day.

As a woman, I fail to breathe at the hands of this male chauvinist society where a minor girl wearing an abaya is raped and it is the fault of the girl because her clothes were inviting.

In an Islamic country, how can a fully covered body be entertaining and inviting to be raped?

Nonetheless, our national dress is the shalwar kameez, which is mostly a fully covered dress. How can such a dress invite the oppressors to harass a woman? It is simply madness to this blame game.

Being an influencer, or activist of an ambassador or officer or a prime Minister, etc., does not entitle a male entity to go beyond all moral standards and display an act of animosity where the only thing working is their penis’.

The need of the time is a changed mindset and the end to the blame game. How can one expect the youth of today to be leaders of the future?

The time demand the male gender to be raised as a responsible citizen https://www.sabahataamir.com/tips-on-grooming-boys-sons-part-i/ and not as a burden on the society.

If society as a whole takes the responsibility of keeping an eye on the wrong and reporting it on time instead of watching and being a spectator to the ongoing crime, only then can women/girls, at large be able to breathe again.

As a mother, a wife, an activist, an educationist, I see the fear penetrating everywhere especially within girls as to whether going out of their house walls can be their last day?

Did we bear, our girls for this day to see the cruel, animous and faceless, face of this society?

Or did we demand a separate home where we can live in a land which we can call our own and practice the charter of human rights?

If this is going to be the cost of demanding our birthright then give us the necessary tools too, to keep ourselves and our kind safe too.

And if the authorities can’t do that then give your places to those who can in reality serve their duty or wait for Revolutions to take place. As there is a limit to the blame game. Think about it before it is too late.

Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

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I TOO EXIST

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I TOO EXIST

Hello Folks!

Have you ever experienced the gaze of hungry eyes? I am sure you too must have felt very awkward and uncomfortable. Today, I will share with you an experience I had at NADRA headquarters in Islamabad.

A couple of months ago, I went there for some documentation regarding my National Identity Card. The woman at the reception dealt with me in a very professional way and answered my queries, unlike other females at the reception desk.

I could clearly analyze the professionalism of the woman who not only answered my queries but was dealing with all in the same professional way. I sat down on a chair nearby and started looking around the hall while waiting for my turn.

People entered the office and went to their desired stations. Off and on, the lady at the reception looked at me and did her work. It was a normal routine for me. People staring at me. But that day, I was not the center of attraction.

It was the woman at reception. People sitting beside me passed cheap comments on her and that caught her attention as a result of which she looked at me. I too was getting annoyed by their remarks and gazes for the woman. Soon their turn came and there was a sign of relief on the woman’s face.

Then there came some more visitors. I would say, a total nuisance. The moment they entered. They sat in front of the reception desk and started passing comments on the woman. They would say something in each other’s ear and laugh by looking at her.

Let alone how she felt, I felt uncomfortable too. That’s when I realized, no matter how sophisticated our society becomes unless they accept a person as part of the society, only then can that individual succeed.

No matter how professional a person may be in her line of work, this society will stigmatized her either in the name of a woman or a transgender.

We as a society, are in dire need to redefine policies and looking at people in a particular way. For this collective efforts are needed to include the transgenders in the main framework of our systems and think about them.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

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IMPRESSIONS; THINK OUT OF THE BOX

A SINGLE DAY IN THE LIFE OF A WOMAN

People are often bound by impressions they have been viewing since an early stage of life. Such impressions often make me wonder why cannot people, Think out of the Box (https://www.wordhippo.com/what-is/another-word-for/thinking_outside_the_box.html )before making such impressions.

Today, I will walk you through one such impression that prevails in most Pakistani (South Asian) families.

STAY AT HOME WOMEN/WIVES/MOMS SCHEDULE:

This impression is formed by men mostly who think if a woman is a stay-at-home mom/wife, she does not have anything to do except enjoying leisure all day long. Well, it is high time to think out of the box.

Let’s start with a normal day for any woman/housewife. Her daily routine starts with the morning prayers. The timings may vary according to the time zone of the area/ country where one is residing.

MORNING PREPARATIONS:

Anyways, after the morning prayers, she starts preparing lunchboxes and breakfast for everyone in the house. Now, these lunch boxes and breakfast are not simple ones but may vary according to ones liking and tastes.https://www.nigella.com/cookbook-corner

This may take 1 hour in preparation depending on the number of persons living in that particular household.

ACTION TIME:

Then comes the time of waking up everyone in order of the time they have to leave for their work/school. She wakes up the adults who can at least wash their faces on their own.

But as for the children, she has to make sure to get them out of the bed, adjust the water temperature according to the weather, and assist them in every possible way.

No matter what are the ages of children, they always need to be pampered.

Next to this stage comes the changing stage where again on the one side she is assisting the children in getting ready and at the same time assisting the so organized adults in finding their lost things.

Well, finally comes the breakfast stage where everyone begins to eat their breakfast with little or no complain which is very rare in most circumstances.

After the breakfast stage is the leave for school and work stage which is no less than a hassle. Everything takes place in the twinkling of an eye.

The dropping to school too mostly is the responsibility of the woman/wife.

When the drop-off stage is over, the woman goes to a nearby park for a daily morning walk or exercise or as the circumstances be for her. This might take half an hour or so.

After coming back, she quickly takes her breakfast and gets to her daily chores. Hey, are we on the same page? I am sure we are.

THE NEVER-ENDING CHORES:

These chores, I am sure everyone in Pakistani society is well aware of. Well, I am talking about the regular cleaning of the house which requires washing dishes, sweeping, dusting, and mopping and re-arrangements of things as well.

This work can take about 1 to 2 hours of her time depending on the size of the home or how much dirty it might be. A little help from someone can be a blessing if there is one or else, it is her home and, she has to clean it. An out-of-the-box scenario.

Well, if there is some elderly person in the home, she has to attend him/her as well and take care of their needs and medicines, etc.

And she does all this, out of her love for that soul not for people’s reward but the greater reward that she might receive from the Creator. Though some words of gratitude may not kill her.

When the home chores are done, she reverts to her kitchen where she has to start with food preparations according to the liking of everyone at home.

IT’S HERO TIME:

Now, let me enlighten you with the fact that in the kitchen, most women do not have extra hands instead she is multi-tasking to put the meals on the table.

It may involve lengthy processes from cutting onions to peeling off skins of garlic and vegetables etc. No easy way out.Ah!

I am with all of you in this and I am here to bear with you, care and share with you and be your voice in expressing your inner thoughts.

Now, these meals might not always be simpler, to get them right and according to taste, the woman might consult elderly women in families who are believed to be good cooks of their time.

They might be able to guide provided they have a good memory or have a recipe noted down somewhere or else you are on your own.

And if you are creative and have a taste for food you might come up with something better.

Your family will love it for they will think it’s the same recipe…and you will never tell.

Hello! Here comes the off time for kids. You have got to go. No time to stand and stare or even drink a glass of water.

So here you are running on the roads from one school to another to pick up the children from their respective schools.

This picking up may take 1 to 1 and a half hours depending on your location of the home to and from school.

After coming back from school, the woman engages herself in getting them changed and get them on the table for food. During this time, the woman engages and asks them about their day, what made them happy, sad and whatever they want to talk about.

Her day does not come to an end, she has to make sure the children have their due rest or if they want to play, she takes them to the park so that they can enjoy.

SNACK TIME:

After coming back, the children might need some snacks to fill their hungry tummies and the woman has to be very selective in providing them something nutritious yet energy boosting.https://www.sabahataamir.com/a-finger-licking-brownie/

When the eating is over, she has to get on with their homework or any of the school activities or as the case might be. Well, she does it all. Except in areas that are beyond her grasp.

Now, up till this time, it is already 7:00 p.m. She has to start preparing for the food to be served for dinner. It can either be a whole new food or the same food used for lunch.

The family man mostly arrives from his office late to have dinner with the family. It is a lucky day for the family if he comes on time.

The dinner is served. It is either praised or praised with some improvements or eaten without comments.

Now, the wife thinks that her day has come to an end and she can do something of her liking but it is like versa.

She has to iron the clothes for the next day, pack the bags, get the children ready for sleep, read them something, or watch something with them before they are lulled to sleep.

CATHARSIS TIME:

This might take another hour or so. When all this is done, she opens her laptop/book, etc., with the idea of writing down something which gives her inspiration for the next day yet to come.

At this point, she expects some gratitude from anyone in the house.

But here too, she does not get any gratitude yet receives this comment; All day you are on the laptop and do nothing…

then please all men are you, Husbands, Brothers, Fathers, Friends, etc., please stop for a second and Think out of the box.

We are human beings not any cog in the machines.

In the end, I would like to reiterate my point of view that stop taking us for granted and formulating impressions about us.

For once, think out of the box. If we are stay-at-home moms or wives or women; we have deliberately or non deliberately choose this for ourselves.

We want to give a conducive environment to our family and the people around us. We do not earn in monetary terms but we are earning through our deeds and raising productive nations trying to make them thankful and have gratitude towards the ones who make their lives heaven.

We are working tirelessly, and effortlessly without being compensated. Please bear with us and hear us out, address our grievances and we can find a solution together.

At the end of the day, it is the sacrifices of such women that are going to be counted and be thanked for. So bear with us the equal responsibility and share your gratitude towards all stay-at-home moms/wives/women.

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

Happy Reading.

sabahat

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WHEN WILL I BREATHE AGAIN?

THE BLAME GAME

Hello Folks!

Long time since my last post. I have missed you all tremendously. Today, I aim at bringing to your real-life experiences, the entity named women/girl/daughter/sister/wife, etc., faces at large.

A thorough violation of Human Rights. https://www.hrw.org/world-report/2021/country-chapters/pakistan# So let’s start.

With the backdrop of incidents going on in my part of the world, a question that keeps occurring in my mind and others ‘ too, is when will the time, in reality, come when I too will breathe again.

The events that have been taking place for the past many weeks are so traumatizing for the concerned that they have made our everyday lives a living hell.

And you know what the most pinching thing is that the authorities know who is at fault yet they do a lip service settling it under the carpet?