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THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

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FRUSTRATIONS

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It’s been a while since I have been thinking to write on this topic. With the incidents going on in a couple of weeks, I suppose this is the best time to address this issue.

Today, I aim to talk about Frustrations. What might be the causes and what is it doing to people in general. So let’s start.

With the backdrop of COVID-19, most of us are stuck in our homes deliberately. Now many of us have catered for it by involving ourselves in productive activities.

Still, here are a handful of people who are very unproductive during such times. Such as children, adolescents,labour class, unemployed adults, any college, university students etc.,

The whole point of mentioning these here is that they are not utilizing their energies for productivity rather they have engaged themselves in futile activities that are leading to frustration.

Consider a typical family of 4-6 members. Leaving earning members of the family, those at home are either on some gadgets or watching something all day long.

They are the ones who need to be monitored most as parents/guardians/livelihood earners being out of the house have no idea about what is going on at the back of their(people at home) minds.

In order to know, what is going on please friends whether you are parents, couples, colleagues, best buddies, siblings, talk things out with each other before its too late.

There are many manifestations of being frustrated. Like not having someone to talk to regarding how you feel about certain things. Growing up teens and youth need someone to talk to. The best people for the purpose are the ones you are close too.

You cannot randomly just pick up someone on the social platform and start talking to him/her. Everyone has his/her sensitive points. Why bother people with what they know not of.

Also, they might not be comfortable in addressing your questions.Talking to someone you consider a friend is good but even that friend might have limitations regarding the disposition of specific knowledge.

So, dear friends, it is always better to seek professional advice if you are in desperate need. Sometimes taking the easy option out might cost you a great deal of pain before you revert to the right way.

I can advise you and suggest these things because I have learnt these over the years through experience and it is the essence of my life, I want you to have and make good use of it.

After all, I too am human and can err but the best of us is the one who learns from others mistakes rather than making new ones.

For the adults and youth who think and feel as they are stranded in this scenario, don’t lose hope.There is always the best to come. So be grateful for what you have and have gratitude for even the minutest.

And for those who are on the social platform 24/7, please breathe and let others breathe too.Someone trying to address your issues, encourage them rather than being pain in the ass for them.

They are trying to provide you a bright future, a life you can be grateful for, for the years to come. Respect them and consider them your guardian angels.

Don’t throw things at them just because they write openly. They place themselves in your shoes and respond accordingly.

Don’t show your frustrations to them. They are only trying to help you out through this community service of being there. Think about it. Unitl next time, stay Safe and Healthy.

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CATHARSIS

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What do you think is the most difficult thing to do in life? I know, you too will be thinking of the same thing. It is Catharsis. So, today, I aim at talking about catharsis and how to deal with it. So, let’s start.

Every one of us now and then has to face the music in one or the other form. Real success is how you as an individual deal with it. Most of our pains come from our core family as compared to the outside world.

These are the pains that torment our entire being in and out. What matters at the end is how we pull through the stress and torment.

It is a sorry state of affairs when one sees blood relations turning against you on the account of finances especially when you serve the treasure as the most honest being.

Money can undoubtedly turn a friend to a foe and blood relations to your worse enemies. As an individual, I have seen and heard people killing their sacrosanct relatives for the love of money.

The more you have it, the less you think about the feelings and pains of the other.

Those of you who have a less amount of money, be contented with it, and don’t ask for more because you have not seen the worst it can bring out of you.

And even if you do ask for it, never forget from where you started; as a reminder always help us in achieving ultimate goals and making us realize who our real well-wishers are.

Always rely on your sole self without looking at the hands of other people. During your life journey, you may come across many good people. Be welcoming to them and accept them for you never know they might be more truthful then your blood relations.

And rely on your capabilities and the help of God. For all happens in this life and the hereafter at His will.

The trapped emotions and pain can only find their way out in the form of Catharsis. Now it’s up to you how you make way for it. The most productive way is to let it out in the form of tears.

All your sorrows and pain will be out in no time and you will feel lighter.

Also, talk to someone you trust. Someone who is a good listener. Someone who knows you and can understand your emotions and pain. Not everyone wants to know your pain.

Some will share your pain but will want something in return. Be aware of the kind. You might be walking in a dead-end before you know it.

Crying, my friends is not a weakness. It only shows that you are a human and can feel the bullshit of people.

So whenever, you can’t handle the pressure just let tears trickle down your cheeks and let it out.

You should always know that there is no power greater than God Himself. Revert to Him. He will answer your prayers and pay you in the most unexpected forms.

Think about it. Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

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THE CATALYST

THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

Happy Reading!

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THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

Happy Reading!

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FRUSTRATIONS

Hello Folks!

It’s been a while since I have been thinking to write on this topic. With the incidents going on in a couple of weeks, I suppose this is the best time to address this issue.

Today, I aim to talk about Frustrations. What might be the causes and what is it doing to people in general. So let’s start.

With the backdrop of COVID-19, most of us are stuck in our homes deliberately. Now many of us have catered for it by involving ourselves in productive activities.

Still, here are a handful of people who are very unproductive during such times. Such as children, adolescents,labour class, unemployed adults, any college, university students etc.,

The whole point of mentioning these here is that they are not utilizing their energies for productivity rather they have engaged themselves in futile activities that are leading to frustration.

Consider a typical family of 4-6 members. Leaving earning members of the family, those at home are either on some gadgets or watching something all day long.

They are the ones who need to be monitored most as parents/guardians/livelihood earners being out of the house have no idea about what is going on at the back of their(people at home) minds.

In order to know, what is going on please friends whether you are parents, couples, colleagues, best buddies, siblings, talk things out with each other before its too late.

There are many manifestations of being frustrated. Like not having someone to talk to regarding how you feel about certain things. Growing up teens and youth need someone to talk to. The best people for the purpose are the ones you are close too.

You cannot randomly just pick up someone on the social platform and start talking to him/her. Everyone has his/her sensitive points. Why bother people with what they know not of.

Also, they might not be comfortable in addressing your questions.Talking to someone you consider a friend is good but even that friend might have limitations regarding the disposition of specific knowledge.

So, dear friends, it is always better to seek professional advice if you are in desperate need. Sometimes taking the easy option out might cost you a great deal of pain before you revert to the right way.

I can advise you and suggest these things because I have learnt these over the years through experience and it is the essence of my life, I want you to have and make good use of it.

After all, I too am human and can err but the best of us is the one who learns from others mistakes rather than making new ones.

For the adults and youth who think and feel as they are stranded in this scenario, don’t lose hope.There is always the best to come. So be grateful for what you have and have gratitude for even the minutest.

And for those who are on the social platform 24/7, please breathe and let others breathe too.Someone trying to address your issues, encourage them rather than being pain in the ass for them.

They are trying to provide you a bright future, a life you can be grateful for, for the years to come. Respect them and consider them your guardian angels.

Don’t throw things at them just because they write openly. They place themselves in your shoes and respond accordingly.

Don’t show your frustrations to them. They are only trying to help you out through this community service of being there. Think about it. Unitl next time, stay Safe and Healthy.

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