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THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

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MEMOIRS OF AN ORPHAN

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MEMOIRS OF AN ORPHAN

Hello Folks!

I often think about orphans regarding what becomes of them when their parent/parents are no more and they are left at the mercy of their relatives.

Today, I will share with you an insight regarding this. So let’s start. It’s not necessary that every orphan has to go through the same problems and pinches. Sometimes, we altogether, have a very different experience.

A few months ago, I met one such person. A youth who is working in a medical organization as a medical attendant for the welfare of senior people.

A brief talk with him told a lot about his childhood experiences and the way society reacts towards orphans. So much to learn at such a tender age.

On inquiring about the traditional attitude of the relatives, both maternal and paternal toward him and the siblings, he had no complaints from the maternal side.

He was clear about one thing regarding maternal relatives which was that they were always at their back from childhood to adulthood. Never, did once he or the siblings felt like separate members of the family.

However, he felt grieved on the attitude of the paternal side who was never there for them when they needed them the most.

The only time, they contacted was, when they wanted the land/property. And the way the paternal relatives manipulated one of the siblings for their own benefit. So much so that it led to guilt and shame and the ultimate result was the death of the sibling.

They got what they wanted. But the siblings still await justice even today.

Sometimes, we don’t know where our actions would take us, and we can be easily fooled by clever people. Only sincere friends and family can save us from falling into these kinds of trap.

But sometimes, even friends and family can’t help us and we fall into an abyss resulting in a permanent loss.

Orphans are the most sensitive beings who look for love, care, and acceptance wherever they go. And if they find such people, they own them throughout their lives.

And if they don’t, they keep on searching for people who accept them. Being a medical attendant in Pakistan is not much of a rewarding career especially if the mindset of the employer is of a boss and not of a human being.

We, as individuals are kinder towards our pets but less sensitive to the needs of a human being who we often take for granted.

As far as orphans are concerned, the relatives know how to manipulate them to their own benefit later to discard them from the mainframe of work. It is heart aching to see such behavior always.

If relatives can be monsters then what to expect from society at large. They too are no less than a nightmare. An orphan, even at a tender age learns and absorbs the brutality/reality of life when he /she has to face them every second of the day.

How will all this shape one’s personality? You my, friends are intelligent to understand and interpret all this. Those of you who are guardians of orphans treat them well with utter responsibility and care.

And those of you who are thinking of becoming a guardian to them, place yourself in their footsteps and then act with love and care as you don’t know when fate can stop smiling at you.

It is small acts of kindness that pay us in the long run. Think about it. Until next time stay safe and healthy.

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FRUSTRATIONS

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FRUSTRATIONS

Hello Folks!

It’s been a while since I have been thinking to write on this topic. With the incidents going on in a couple of weeks, I suppose this is the best time to address this issue.

Today, I aim to talk about Frustrations. What might be the causes and what is it doing to people in general. So let’s start.

With the backdrop of COVID-19, most of us are stuck in our homes deliberately. Now many of us have catered for it by involving ourselves in productive activities.

Still, here are a handful of people who are very unproductive during such times. Such as children, adolescents,labour class, unemployed adults, any college, university students etc.,

The whole point of mentioning these here is that they are not utilizing their energies for productivity rather they have engaged themselves in futile activities that are leading to frustration.

Consider a typical family of 4-6 members. Leaving earning members of the family, those at home are either on some gadgets or watching something all day long.

They are the ones who need to be monitored most as parents/guardians/livelihood earners being out of the house have no idea about what is going on at the back of their(people at home) minds.

In order to know, what is going on please friends whether you are parents, couples, colleagues, best buddies, siblings, talk things out with each other before its too late.

There are many manifestations of being frustrated. Like not having someone to talk to regarding how you feel about certain things. Growing up teens and youth need someone to talk to. The best people for the purpose are the ones you are close too.

You cannot randomly just pick up someone on the social platform and start talking to him/her. Everyone has his/her sensitive points. Why bother people with what they know not of.

Also, they might not be comfortable in addressing your questions.Talking to someone you consider a friend is good but even that friend might have limitations regarding the disposition of specific knowledge.

So, dear friends, it is always better to seek professional advice if you are in desperate need. Sometimes taking the easy option out might cost you a great deal of pain before you revert to the right way.

I can advise you and suggest these things because I have learnt these over the years through experience and it is the essence of my life, I want you to have and make good use of it.

After all, I too am human and can err but the best of us is the one who learns from others mistakes rather than making new ones.

For the adults and youth who think and feel as they are stranded in this scenario, don’t lose hope.There is always the best to come. So be grateful for what you have and have gratitude for even the minutest.

And for those who are on the social platform 24/7, please breathe and let others breathe too.Someone trying to address your issues, encourage them rather than being pain in the ass for them.

They are trying to provide you a bright future, a life you can be grateful for, for the years to come. Respect them and consider them your guardian angels.

Don’t throw things at them just because they write openly. They place themselves in your shoes and respond accordingly.

Don’t show your frustrations to them. They are only trying to help you out through this community service of being there. Think about it. Unitl next time, stay Safe and Healthy.

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THE CATALYST

THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

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THE CATALYST

As a child, I often used to wonder why are marriages spoiled? The most beautiful relationships coming to end in the spur of a second. What can be the reason for breaking a beautiful sleep?

I have got my answer. There can be 101 reasons for a breakup in a marriage or even a relationship. But what I am going to tell you today will be something, no one ever told you. A catalyst. So let us start.

We often talk about parents bonding and vice versa but anything in excess has its side effects. In marriages, every day is a battlefield where either the husband or the wife plays the role of a warrior to save the family from forces that want to harm them.

But then, there are days when this battle is lost and the forces at work win. This all seems like a fairy tale, but real life is no less than these tales; only the characters are human beings facing real-life threats and scams and negativity.

In most marriages, either person/partner needs to be of sound/balance mind lest you want a break-up. Anyways, being a woman and a wife, most of us know where to hit the nail.

If the nail is not hit on the head, then the consequences can be great. The same is the case of a break-up in Marriages. Husbands are born to bear a lot of pain obviously not childbirth which is not their realm but theoretically speaking loss of a loved one and other craps.

One thing a husband can never bear is anything said against his parents or maybe siblings. You want to bring out the monster in him, take a shot and then you will know what I mean.

It is not that they don’t know about the ills done by their family; it’s the acknowledgment that they fail to recognize. We train our children right from the beginning to accept their mistakes and own them but why do we not teach them to question their parents when they are wrong.

I know the rights and duties of parents but why are we failing in this regard. When the survival of marriage becomes difficult, why is a woman always told to have patience and bear all the shit of the inlaws and husbands? And why is she reminded of her duty towards all?

Why is not the husband told all this and why don’t the inlaws stop meddling with the affairs of the couple and put their noses where it is needed?

Not all in-laws or parents have the stamina to share their sons with an outsider(wife). No matter how devoted she might be, there will always be a reason to corner her and have what one seeks.

It’s a sorry state of affairs but this is a common practice in 90 percent of cases in Asian marriages and there is no single law to put the in-laws in their places and not to meddle with couple personal matters.

When training and grooming our children, we need to teach them justice and to keep all at par without infringing anyone’s rights.

In the end, I would say that unless and, until there is a balanced in training and laws enforced to keep people in their places, then would marriages survive. Think about it.https://www.sabahataamir.com/the-perfect-gift…ose-and-personal/

Until next time, stay safe and Healthy.

Happy Reading!

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MEMOIRS OF AN ORPHAN

Hello Folks!

I often think about orphans regarding what becomes of them when their parent/parents are no more and they are left at the mercy of their relatives.

Today, I will share with you an insight regarding this. So let’s start. It’s not necessary that every orphan has to go through the same problems and pinches. Sometimes, we altogether, have a very different experience.

A few months ago, I met one such person. A youth who is working in a medical organization as a medical attendant for the welfare of senior people.

A brief talk with him told a lot about his childhood experiences and the way society reacts towards orphans. So much to learn at such a tender age.

On inquiring about the traditional attitude of the relatives, both maternal and paternal toward him and the siblings, he had no complaints from the maternal side.

He was clear about one thing regarding maternal relatives which was that they were always at their back from childhood to adulthood. Never, did once he or the siblings felt like separate members of the family.

However, he felt grieved on the attitude of the paternal side who was never there for them when they needed them the most.

The only time, they contacted was, when they wanted the land/property. And the way the paternal relatives manipulated one of the siblings for their own benefit. So much so that it led to guilt and shame and the ultimate result was the death of the sibling.

They got what they wanted. But the siblings still await justice even today.

Sometimes, we don’t know where our actions would take us, and we can be easily fooled by clever people. Only sincere friends and family can save us from falling into these kinds of trap.

But sometimes, even friends and family can’t help us and we fall into an abyss resulting in a permanent loss.

Orphans are the most sensitive beings who look for love, care, and acceptance wherever they go. And if they find such people, they own them throughout their lives.

And if they don’t, they keep on searching for people who accept them. Being a medical attendant in Pakistan is not much of a rewarding career especially if the mindset of the employer is of a boss and not of a human being.

We, as individuals are kinder towards our pets but less sensitive to the needs of a human being who we often take for granted.

As far as orphans are concerned, the relatives know how to manipulate them to their own benefit later to discard them from the mainframe of work. It is heart aching to see such behavior always.

If relatives can be monsters then what to expect from society at large. They too are no less than a nightmare. An orphan, even at a tender age learns and absorbs the brutality/reality of life when he /she has to face them every second of the day.

How will all this shape one’s personality? You my, friends are intelligent to understand and interpret all this. Those of you who are guardians of orphans treat them well with utter responsibility and care.

And those of you who are thinking of becoming a guardian to them, place yourself in their footsteps and then act with love and care as you don’t know when fate can stop smiling at you.

It is small acts of kindness that pay us in the long run. Think about it. Until next time stay safe and healthy.

Happy Reading!

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FRUSTRATIONS

Hello Folks!

It’s been a while since I have been thinking to write on this topic. With the incidents going on in a couple of weeks, I suppose this is the best time to address this issue.

Today, I aim to talk about Frustrations. What might be the causes and what is it doing to people in general. So let’s start.

With the backdrop of COVID-19, most of us are stuck in our homes deliberately. Now many of us have catered for it by involving ourselves in productive activities.

Still, here are a handful of people who are very unproductive during such times. Such as children, adolescents,labour class, unemployed adults, any college, university students etc.,

The whole point of mentioning these here is that they are not utilizing their energies for productivity rather they have engaged themselves in futile activities that are leading to frustration.

Consider a typical family of 4-6 members. Leaving earning members of the family, those at home are either on some gadgets or watching something all day long.

They are the ones who need to be monitored most as parents/guardians/livelihood earners being out of the house have no idea about what is going on at the back of their(people at home) minds.

In order to know, what is going on please friends whether you are parents, couples, colleagues, best buddies, siblings, talk things out with each other before its too late.

There are many manifestations of being frustrated. Like not having someone to talk to regarding how you feel about certain things. Growing up teens and youth need someone to talk to. The best people for the purpose are the ones you are close too.

You cannot randomly just pick up someone on the social platform and start talking to him/her. Everyone has his/her sensitive points. Why bother people with what they know not of.

Also, they might not be comfortable in addressing your questions.Talking to someone you consider a friend is good but even that friend might have limitations regarding the disposition of specific knowledge.

So, dear friends, it is always better to seek professional advice if you are in desperate need. Sometimes taking the easy option out might cost you a great deal of pain before you revert to the right way.

I can advise you and suggest these things because I have learnt these over the years through experience and it is the essence of my life, I want you to have and make good use of it.

After all, I too am human and can err but the best of us is the one who learns from others mistakes rather than making new ones.

For the adults and youth who think and feel as they are stranded in this scenario, don’t lose hope.There is always the best to come. So be grateful for what you have and have gratitude for even the minutest.

And for those who are on the social platform 24/7, please breathe and let others breathe too.Someone trying to address your issues, encourage them rather than being pain in the ass for them.

They are trying to provide you a bright future, a life you can be grateful for, for the years to come. Respect them and consider them your guardian angels.

Don’t throw things at them just because they write openly. They place themselves in your shoes and respond accordingly.

Don’t show your frustrations to them. They are only trying to help you out through this community service of being there. Think about it. Unitl next time, stay Safe and Healthy.